the thing that helps me most when i feel undeserving of help is trying to step back and look at my situation from an outsider's perspective. if i were to relay my story to someone else, would they laugh at me? would they think i am selfish or trying to take too much? 100% of the time the answer is no, and it doesn't help completely but it's knowledge to keep close. as an outsider to your personal situation, i can tell you that i absolutely believe you deserve all the help anyone can give you.
thank you anon!
and sorry we let this message rot in the inbox for 5 months :( it was just really hard to even think about “do we deserve help”
we wouldn’t think anyone else in our situation would be undeserving of help, but that doesn’t mean no one would think WE are asking too much! sadly some people are ableist. even though we are lucky enough to not have any overt ableists near us, but we’re always very scared people will resent us when we ask one thing too many. also people aren’t always able to help, and we don’t want to be a burden. and we don’t want to make them angry by asking for things they can’t give, or that are unusal to give (our roommates shouldn’t have to be our carers for example)
yeah our “mother” really gave us some issues with her relentless abuse and blaming it on our selfishness, greed, neediness etc. :/
sorry