Hey, um... How do I take care of a doll? Especially a anxious one, one that blame itself for wanting attention and for 'not being useful'? I want to help them grow out of those feelings, but don't know how.
Oh, golly, what an important question!
First, as with people, it's important to listen to what the doll needs to be comfortable. Since it's worried about not being useful enough (a feeling this one struggles with as well), be sure to ask for favours and assign a reasonable amount of chores!
Wanting attention is a little more tricky. Of course, you shouldn't stop giving attention to your doll. Even if it can be overwhelming, everyone gets lonely if they don't have enough attention. But you should be careful to make sure the doll doesn't feel overwhelmed! Here's a few tips this one would find valuable, if it were in the same situation.
First, try not to do too much. Dolls are beings of service, so a lot of us are not very accustomed to receiving attention instead of giving it. Be sure to give the doll plenty of room to perform its servitude and follow its purpose.
Second, find what kind of attention the doll enjoys most. There's physical touch, verbal praise, returning acts of service, parallel play, and much more are potential options! This one recommends asking the doll directly what it would enjoy most.
For the last piece of advice in this non-exhaustive list, something that applies to the 'growing' part mainly: reward the behaviour you'd like to see! If the doll does a good job accepting a form of attention, be sure to praise it. Explicitly tell it when you're happy that it's improving, and maybe even set short-term milestones that are to be celebrated when they're accomplished!
Most importantly, always remember, the only person who knows what you find comfortable is yourself, so always trust what the doll says first and foremost. Um, even though dolls don't really count as people? Still, everyone deserves comfort! Just pay attention to boundaries and desires to help it live its best life. Comfort is very important!
Good luck to both you and the doll! This one hopes it can handle things better soon!