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[cuteasacoldsore]

BOY.

I’m going to start keeping a journal of all the responses I’ve heard when I reveal that I have herpes. Here’s a couple of my favorites:

Me: I have herpes.

Guy: Oh shit. I kissed you. Should I get tested?

Me: I have herpes.

Guy: Thats too bad I feel like your pussy tastes really good.

Me: I have herpes.

Guy: No way, me too! Do you usually tell people? Because I don’t.

Me: I have herpes

Guy: Gross.

[cuteasacoldsore]

Herpes 101

Hey guys! I’ve been getting a lot of chats and texts and such with various herpes questions! 

I am by NO means a doctor, but I have had genital herpes now for 2+ years and have done LOTS of research so if you have any questions, my inbox is always open :) I’ll be paying close attention for the next couple hours so lets have a little Q&A!

[cuteasacoldsore]

I got my heart broken exactly three days ago. Completely out of the blue.

However, from all pain comes strength. There is nothing that I, or you, cannot overcome. The sun will still shine tomorrow, and the breeze will still blow your hair into your lipstick, and your car will still need gas. The good things will still be there, and even though there is now a little twinge of darkness and hurt, it wont be there forever.

I miss him. I love him, and it hurts. But I will be okay. And to anyone out there who is also suffering, so will you.

[cuteasacoldsore]

I’ve found that ever since my diagnosis, I’ve craved validation from others.

Validation that I’m still pretty, that I’m still attractive or desirable.

Validation that I’m still wanted, that people care about me, that I’m not annoying or depressed or disgusting.

But recently I’ve learned that the only person who can validate you, is yourself. Because you know yourself better than anyone else, and you are the only person who can pick yourself off the floor and get your cute little butt in the shower and steam out the negativity from your entire body before seizing the day.

There is so much to love about yourself, and you don’t ever need anyone else to be the one to put that invisible check mark on you that says “Validated” because you can do that your own goddamn self with a glitter pen.

[cuteasacoldsore]

Dear [Insert Your Name Here]

I want you to know that you are the same beautiful person that you have always been. This does not define you. HSV is nothing but a common skin condition that has a bad stigma attached to it, which is unfortunately kept alive due to our very uneducated society. I would never want you to feel that you are what the stigma represents because that couldn’t be further from the truth. Yes, this is a life changing situation, but I know that you are strong enough to handle it. Life hasn’t been easy and there will still be more battles that we have to face, but you will survive and carry on.

I truly believe that this will not stop you from being happy. It may change your dating aspect in life, but it may even be for the better. Having this may help you “weed out” certain individuals you just wouldnt want to be with. For example, someone that judges those for having this, someone who you couldn’t trust with keeping your diagnosis private, someone who only want sex, and so on. So aside from compatibility, you now keep these things in mind and qualities like trust and open-mindedness can be a great foundation for a relationship.

If its the dating part of life that is really bothering you now, dont worry, you will find someone who loves you for you. Most importantly, I want you to love YOU. You need to know that this does not make you any less of a person. Never ever feel that you need to settle for someone because they are okay with you having HSV2 and you are afraid that you won’t find another to accept you, you will. You are an amazing person and there are tons of people out there that would be willing to accept you for you and everything that comes with you. Please do not ever limit yourself because of this.

Besides the change in dating, you may face other changes. Changes in your diet or lifestyle may need to be done in order to prevent or limit outbreaks. This will be a whole new learning process in itself, but you will find what works best for you. It will take time, patience, research, and lots of trial and error, but you will do it. Above all, it will take acceptance. As cheesy as this may sound, you must accept this for yourself before anything else.

We never chose to have hsv…but it happened. Now we can only move forward. How we choose to do so is up to us…Take back control of your life. Don’t let the stigma define you…WE ARE NOT THE STIGMA.

[cuteasacoldsore]

Hello...

ITS ME...

I WAS WONDERING...

if any of you have any questions! Herpes related, or otherwise, I’m happy to be of service :)

[cuteasacoldsore]

Ask Away!!

Hi guys! For anyone new to the Herpes world, I’m taking any and all questions!

I promise to always provide a loving answer with a kickpunch laughing ending.

I’ll be taking questions all day :)

Ask away!

[cuteasacoldsore]

Just because

someone accepts your HSV diagnosis, doesn’t mean that you need to lower your standards for them.

someone accepts your HSV diagnosis, doesn’t mean that you have to stay with them when they don’t treat you right

someone rejects your HSV diagnosis, doesn’t mean you are any less of the human that you were before that maggot told you what they think

someone rejects your HSV diagnosis, doesn’t mean that you are not a beautiful bird who deserve to soar and shit on that small minded human’s head

just because you have herpes, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to be loved.