SCIENCE OF HAPPINESSSSSS.
hi jennifer. your lecture is REALLY interesting. i wanna take the science of happiness now:( Today's lesson : FORGIVENESS.
some parts are ehh. thats wen i turn up my music 8) and block out the surrounding sounds! hahahahahahaha :p
so... what did you learn abt forgiveness, jennifer? :O
Notes for Jennifer.
-what comes to your mind when you think about forgiveness?
-what concerns come to mind?
-there are things that shouldnt be forgiven
-what does it mean to forgive? Forgiveness does not equal forgetting.
-Forgiveness involves no consequences, giving, reconciliation, trust, pretending unacceptable behavior is acceptable, no longer feeling the pain or grieving.
-Reconciliation = Forgiveness + trust
--> involves trust, a cancelled debt, giving up the attitude "you owe me", giving up the perceived right to get even.
HOWEVER,
Forgiveness is giving up the attitude "you owe me", cancelled debt, and giving up the percieved right to get even.
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benefits of forgiveness
--> forgiveness overcomes bitterness
-->forgiveness helps you move out of pain
--> forgiveness often increase your capacity for love
-->forgiveness makes reconciliation possible
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the minors :
the less serious mistakes and offenses
-->forgive quickly
-->accept each other's imperfections
--> remember your own flaws (<-- thats hard, according to your professor!)
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the majors:
the deeper offenses and betrayals
-->go slowly
--> forgiving too quickly can be more harmful than not forgiving at all.
--> get outside support
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forgiveness comes from the person who has been hurt.
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Asking for forgiveness
--> shows acceptance of responsbiltiy for the offense
--> confirms the pain of the offended
--> may need to be asked for many times
PAY ATTENTION AND STOP GOING ON FB. THIS COURSE IS FCKING INTERESTING. IM SO JEALOUS HOE.