5 ways to win your heart. • Be Honest with me, at the micro level. I don't need to live in your head or insist that you tell me everything, I don't need to know everything. I do want you to be completely honest about not liking something I'm wearing, not wanting to go vegan, not wanting to practice yoga with me, not agreeing with my beliefs... no white lies between us. No egos in this relationship. Express your feelings directly, you don't have to sugarcoat for me. I want us to be comfortable with having different opinions, different perspectives. Similar outlook is good, creating something new from our differences is better, fierce conversations are positively intoxicating. I crave that kind of connection and honesty. • Let us always be Playful with each other. I love a good joke, cheesy pick up lines, laughing till I cry, games with you, random kisses, pats on the booty, hands that linger... Have you noticed how I sometimes break out in dance to the random songs playing in my head? Remind me that life isn't that serious and I will do the same for you. • Let us be Lovers first. Let's not hide behind the cliché of "being best friends first". I think it's a cop out for your partner not to call you out on it when you get too uncomfortably comfortable, lazy, and emotionally stagnant. I don't want to coddle your fears and insecurities and I don't want that from you. I want sex to be a priority in our lives, schedule it if we must (or to build anticipation); let's be flirtatious, seduce the other, ignite desires, let's share fantasies. I care deeply about feeling good in my body, about pleasing you, about being sexually connected with you. I want us to be raw, vulnerable, messy, juicy, open, dive deeper, wild and free with each other. Accepting any less from each other would just be tragic. • Let us have separate passions, distinct identities; I don't want a clone. I want to see you inspired and driven by the things You love. I'll be your cheerleader and devil's advocate, your support staff and boss, your fan and critic...I think you know what I mean. I'd love receiving the same from you too. • Let us mix it up a bit, or a lot. Let's not become slaves to routines. Let's try new foods, live in another country for six months, let's examine our taboos, let's seek professional help about family, sex, money, home design if it is necessary. Let's not allow stubbornness or shame to bog us down. We deserve happiness. Let's be free to live and breathe, to be grounded in Self, be considerate and perform kindnesses for each other. Let's give the gift of this kind of relationship to each other.
