So there's an inequality in INFP's and my relationship that I'm not sure how to address. When we text they take, at times, hours to reply, and when they do, sometimes they don't even bother to acknowledge what I've said or asked. Even if it's a "no" or a "not right now" or an "I'm not inspired right now" I'd like to hear back. (For reference about inspiration INFP and I roleplay - we met 7 years ago roleplaying Kingdom Hearts and became friends.) I understand that at times people are busy, but they keep blowing off what I ask or ignore anything that isn't a simple heart emote.
Alternatively, when they text me, I have less than two minutes to respond before I get spammed with messages shouting at me to pay attention to them - I believe the most was somewhere between 50 and 60 text messages and three missed calls. I also have to let them know when I'm going out, and where I'm going (something they don't bother to tell me).
When we're on Skype and I need to hang up I get whined at with really long 'nooooo's' that make me feel like a terrible person for having my own life or needing to go to bed. I've tried to lead by example, or do unto others and all that, by agreeing when they need to hang up, giving them space when they ask for it, and being supportive of their interests and needs but... it's not working.
It feels really unfair and skewed. They say they're sorry over and over but they don't change their behavior. It feels like empty words.
We're friends, and sometimes I need someone to confide in about personal things, but lately they've fallen out of touch and have simply done their own thing without caring about what I need - and I don't know how to fix that without coming off as an asshole.