a lot of young men, who aren’t taking the time out for themselves to figure out what it means to be a good man, are buying into versions of masculinity that only affirm their insecurities.
-whether it’s extremist anti-woman, andrew Tate content, “harmless” internet personalities like Kai Cenat, wanna-be-men bootcamps, or strict hypermasculine fraternities-
Figuring out you own standard of integrity, temperament, respect and appropriate boundaries is a process of experience, trial&error, but mostly observation. Be honest about your insecurities and where they come from and stop expecting women to compensate for that. Evaluate examples of manhood modeled to you and QUESTION if that’s an exemplary, level-headed, secure person.
There is no reason anytime a woman defends herself against your wrong doing you feel the need to violently silence or scare her, become hostile, be triggered and/or immediately become defensive.
Be introspective &honest about what kind of behavior your own ideals are leading you to. No amount of pumping iron, or time with other hypermasculine bros who can’t get vulnerable is going to grant you manhood. You reward it to yourself through unlearning and deep healing.
