Thank you, @isuggestplural
For saying those words that changed our life:
"There's never anything wrong with looking at yourself with a plural lens"
I can't find the exact post, maybe we paraphrased it in our mind.
But was the last push we needed. I don't know if words can express how much joy our systemhood has brought us. I love my headmates, I love how much they've helped me, how much we've helped each other. I love them all. We are companions closer than flesh. I'm so glad to know them. And I will carry on the mission that brought me to them.
So, dear reader(s), try it! Talk to yourself, love yourselves, name your 'parts'. Write notes, delegate tasks, talk to a trusted friend about it if you can. You are hurting no-one by thinking of yourself as plural. If it helps you to identify that way, then do it. When I worry we're faking, or that I'm not really plural, I think "if I wasn't plural, what would I be? A person who hears other voices in her head and works with them to live our life/lives together? I think there's a word for that." So, go for it. You have nothing to lose by learning who you really are. Look through that lens, and maybe, things will look clearer than they ever have before. Whatever truth you discover, we want you to know: you are not alone.