IMO about your reblog I think it’s kind of gross of the op to compare trauma between characters and say one is “more traumatized”. Jason has done some pretty awful things and calling him a just a “bad” victim and saying people don’t like him because he’s “real” is just a roundabout way of trying to villainize people who find his actions reprehensible. Jason tried to kill Tim several times and is a mass murderer. The op talks about woobyfying Tim when Jason fans do the exact same thing but even worse
I suppose you have a point. Especially about comparing trauma between characters being gross. And being honest, when I rebloged that post I took it more as the person criticising another part of the fandom. Because the thing is, (and I also mentioned this in my last reblog responding to your question about where the "Lazarus pit Madness" might have come from), the fandom does both, aka, one part seams to excuse all of Jason's actions on his trauma and "uwufies" him by blamming all of his actions on his trauma and the people that caused it, and the other side doesn't even consider Jason's trauma and paints him as someone that doesn't need/deserve help.
The fact is that discussing/writting about such a complex subject that is trauma and how it is shown in media (especially in comic books where there are an abundance of characters with trauma and how they "deal" with it, mostly through violence) always can get you in a "difficult spot" because it is difficult to do it "right" by everyone.
And then again, just because a character suffered from trauma that doesn't mean their horrible actions are completly excused or that they don't take any responsability over their actions. But still doesn't change the fact that Jason does need help to "get better" and that said help is difficult to give because of his violent actions.
So, I took OP's post more as them pointing out this part of the fandom that refuses to acknowledge that characters like Jason are people that need help, but that at the same time their trauma isn't a complete justification for their horrible actions (it's kind of a 2 way street). Like, I think this can also apply to Batman's rogues gallery as well (I mean not all of them but a lot of them) where you can acknowledge that they are somewhat right in their motives or some part justified because of how they were wronged but you also acknowledge that what they are doing is horrible and causing other people pain. Like, in a lot stories what Batman tries to do with this people (Jason included), besides stopping them by fighting, is trying to appeal to them with a promise of help.
And so, I just think people need to find a "balance" in how this subject is portrayed in fiction and fan works. Though having or reaching it can be difficult.