Mar 24, 2018
“I’ve never gotten a water bill, so I don’t wanna be someone’s wife!”
-SH
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“I’ve never gotten a water bill, so I don’t wanna be someone’s wife!”
-SH
““This is just man in the iron mask...but with singing puppies.”
-CH
“Hang on I’m at the drive through and I’m having a crisis of conscience.”
-SH, over the phone.
You have to love yourself because everyone else is too busy.
Self esteem is a tricky game. Many people have been conditioned to believe it’s someone else’s responsibility to build their self esteem. Be it their spouse or parents or friends, there seems to be a mentality of “I don’t love myself because they...”
Now obivously there are things like depression or other mental illness or terrible partners and terrible parents that screw with your self esteem and create struggles this rant is NOT referring to. But in general, I think people are afraid to love themselves. As if they have to put themselves down to be accepted. As if the only way you’re allowed to feel good about yourself is if someone else gives you permission.
Self esteem, by definition, can’t come from another person (learned that in therapy;) ). And people are just too busy. Can you imagine the ridiculous burden of having to make someone love themself? The amount of sheer energy and effort that would take?
People have their own self esteem to manage as well. It is my life goal to be a person that makes other people feel good about themselves (an ongoing and often thwarted project...), yet I still feel like I have to have something to work with in the first place.
So love yourself. Figure out what’s good about you and remind yourself of it until it feels like reality. Take care of your body. Change what you want to change. Accept what isn’t perfect. Accept what isn’t even good. Tell yourself nice things and keep yourself safe. Because that’s part of your job as a human. It’s you’re job to make yourself happy, because dear god there are enough miserable people on this earth already. Love yourself. You deserve it, and no one can do it for you.
“I don’t wanna live my life in short sentences!”
-HR
“Sydney, we do not look forward to death!”
-EE
“I know less than what I think I know.”
-HG
“You need to grab life by the cojones...in the most polite way possible.”
-AM