like i feel they're well intended.... they don't sound malicious, at least superficially. the message they're trying to get across, i think, is to practice self care but not to go "too far." which is. realistic? optimistic? maybe a little too optimistic
to get around to that point the long way - see, i have a really hard time with self care things. i'm working on it and it's a lot to work on but people are helping me with it and i see self care posts about things i struggle with that tell me i'm still good, that tell me i can take a break from worrying, that tell me i deserve good things and i deserve to eat and sleep and take time for myself. and they're so good to see. after years of feeling like there are all these obstacles to taking care of myself, after years of feeling like i need reasons to keep myself nourished and happy, it's such a good change.
so then posts come about that tell me self care is good but not to go too far. and the intentions are good enough behind those, alright, fine. but do you know what they bring back? they bring back the doubts, the obstacles. they bring back 'it might be too much for me to treat myself.' 'it might be too much for me to relax for a while' because where exactly are your new limits being set
even if that's not the post's intentions, when you reintroduce those doubts, especially to brainweird folk that already have problems with distinguishing 'limits' or overcoming 'needing reasons,' it doesn't matter what was really meant because now the people that worried so much over limits before are going to worry over them again
a lot of self care things that seem to go 'too far' are for brainweird folk anyway that have real issues with the things in question so coming at it with a 'realistic' approach isn't going to work or help at all
so i forget where i was going with this but i guess it was something along the lines of 'i really don't like them or see why they're necessary or why they exist'
