ignoring that i stand with xander 10 toes down, saying, “xander was a terrible friend” doesn’t make sense if you don’t also talk about willow. willow brought dawn, buffy’s sister, to what was essentially a crack den (and her addiction doesn’t negate that!), kicked buffy out of her house ALONG with xander, ganged up on buffy ALONG with xander in “dead man’s party”, put the world in jeopardy before xander talked her down, etc. most of the things xander did, willow was right beside him. xander and willow aren’t terrible friends to buffy, they do what they can in impossible situations, but because xander is a man, it’s more progressive to single him out. i’m not trying to say you have to like him, but i’m kind of sick of people speaking about him in the tags of my gifsets… that don’t even involve him.