kingmaric replied to your post: Listing “no romance” as a positive attribute of...
exactly. it’s true that romance isn’t always needed but when it IS present in a book that doesn’t mean it’s automatically horrible. i think many people today associate romance novels with badly written YA fiction and fail to realize that there are some geuninely good romance stories out there.
I’ve made several posts on the subject of me learning to openly appreciate romance as a genre, and the extension of that feeling has had the effect of making me more open to romances as subplots or subtle flavorings to a story. So that’s where I’m coming from with that particular post, but you bring up a really good point: people associate romance novels with the wrong thing. Romance novels have existed long before romance as a genre was a technical thing--Jane Austen wrote satires and romances, the Brontes wrote their own mix of the genre; Edgar Allan Poe was haunted by his lost love so intensely that half of his writing is about lovelorn grief; Shakespeare is known for his comedies (which always ended in weddings) and his tragedies (which ended differently). Lady Murasaki Shikibu in medieval Japan wrote Genji Monogatari, which is an epic story about--surprise surprise!--a handsome man and all the troubles he gets into with his lovers, because fate isn’t always kind to brilliant people.
Fast forward to today, with The Shape of Water, which is del Toro’s blatant romantic fairytale, and some of Tumblr’s reaction to it. It’s out and out, slightly tongue in cheek acceptance and celebration. And that’s a fucking love story! Joke about fish fucking all you want, y’all, you’re all hyped for a damn love story. And however much I thought Crimson Peak was flawed (and that, too, has that damnable love triangle), that was also a romance.
But I digress. To your point: YA with frustrating ‘love triangle’ gimmicks seemed to have been in vogue some years ago, and I’d like to think the popular thing in YA has moved on since then (I don’t even know what the ‘new thing’ in YA is now. Have we finally swung towards the dark and magical [SIX OF CROWS and THE RAVEN BOYS, etc.?]). Luckily the YA genre is so big that people can find books that don’t really have that triangle stuff in it--or, in the case of ASH by Malinda Lo, it’s done in a surprisingly satisfying way.
But I wonder how much of this “no romance!!” backlash is a mixture of undue dislike for romance as a genre (since it’s typically female-coded, with stories mainly written for women, about women, featuring women, with little deviations from that [but they exist!]), and people who are aro/ace genuinely wanting strong platonic love stories? I’m not saying the latter doesn’t exist, and I think a story featuring those things would be absolutely beautiful (Whouffaldi, one of the ships I’m ride or die for, was basically the most romantic thing I’ve seen on TV in years but didn’t have a single love confession or a [proper] kiss). I’ve even made a post on this very blog years ago, saying how I’d like to write something like that. I’m just saying I don’t think enough people are separating unfair, undeserved hatred for the romance genre from that other demand, and that’s not right. It’s especially ridiculous considering a large part of Tumblr’s fandom userbase is all about Bioware’s dating sims, IMO.
This post is getting a little too long, so lemme wrap it up: Romance is, to me, about happiness and hope and love persisting and defying in a world where all of the above is so hard to find and keep. Romance is about the simple but tremendous courage it takes to trust others and be kind. A story without romance is, to me, a dull story. It’s not something I want to pay attention to. Hell, even George R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and fuckin’ Fire has love in it--one of its most popular quotes from those books is about love and how humans were made for it. Romance as a genre even goes so far as to insist upon happy endings for its characters, and I can’t stress enough how much this touches my heart and changes me on a personal level. By reading love stories with happy endings, I feel that much more happy and determined to be hopeful and brave in my own life. If they can find happiness, both in themselves and in their relationship, then so can I. And that means a lot to me.