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Caregiver Tips : BedTime ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

Create a Schedule!!

Schedules can be very helpful for little ones to get into and say in the groove of bedtime. It can also be helpful if you find yourself not know what to do most night.

Creating an actual Bed-time for bedtime is something I consider important. It doesn’t have to be strict nor does it have to be required though setting a structured though flexible time for your little to head to bed is a good idea !

I don’t suggest any times past 11:00pm though that’s up for you and your little to decide.

A few ideas for Bedtime,

Bath Before Bed ! Not only do baths help to stay clean but it can also be a fun, calming time for little ones

Bed Time Snack. In my personal experience bedtime snacks can be very helpful. Nothing too big because you don’t want the little one to have an upset stomach ! ( You can also treat the snack like a little reward before bed )

StoryTime. You can pick up a nice child friendly book to read your little one to sleep. It’s a safe, calming, and enjoyable activity before bed.

Situational Advice !

Nightmares

Your little woke up from a nightmare ? That can be quite scary for them.

Don’t get upset with your little for being awake. This should be obvious but getting upset with a little for something like this isn’t okay and will only make the situation harder for both of you.

If they’re feeling up to it take a moment to talk about the nightmare with them, get some water, overall show them that they’re safe with you.

Pouty Little having a tantrum at bedtime

Check in to see if there’s any specific reason for it. Wether it’s about being hungry, hurt, or just not wanting to go to bed the reason can be very helpful.

Ease the little to bed. Maybe put on some calming music or a show you think your little could relax while watching.

Explain to them why sleep is important, that you care about them and why you want them to go to sleep in a way they’ll understand.

Different things work for different people and that works the same with littles. If this stuff doesn’t work or you feel they’re better ways to do it for your situation than go ahead !

DNI: NSFW, NonSfw Agere, DDLG, Ageplay, Anti-Agere, Anti-Petre.

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Caregiver Tips for new caregivers!

Part 1!

Are you new to caregiving and scared about where you should start or what you should do? Don’t worry, almost all of us started out that way.

Also! There’s not a set way to be a good caregiver. The experience is different to everyone and should be tailored to your needs and the needs of your little.

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Tips :

🍓 Do research!

Knowing what regression is, why it happens, etc can be very important for a caregiver! Having a good understanding on it can also help you traverse and navigate future situations with it.

🍒 Know your little!

It’s highly suggested that if you’re going to be a caregiver to a little that the both of you trust each other. Making sure you truly know them is a part of that.

A few things you may want to learn if you don’t know already: Possible triggers, why they regress, what age they regress to, who’s safe for them to regress around.

🍎 Obtain little gear!

Little gear doesn’t always mean a sippy cup, binki, toys, etc. If your little uses and enjoys those things then perfect; continue looking in that direction. If they don’t then that’s okay too. Sometimes little gear is a blanket they enjoy, a comfort food, or a specific outfit.

Little gear is anything that makes your little feel safe and small and/or makes your job easier as a caregiver!

Knowing what they need or want can be determined through a conversation with them or them regressing a few times to see what would be helpful.

🍉 Have a system!

Some caregivers use loose schedules, some are spontaneous, and others may have strict day-time scheduling for the little and their age regression. All of these are systems created by a caregiver and little for their situation and happiness!

Your system doesn’t have to be non changed or huge and planned out but having one can be extremely helpful. Discussing a possible “way of going about things” with your little can be a good idea.

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[kitkio]

Are you an Agere who can’t be open or public about it?

For : Age Regressors !!

Here’s a few tips and resources for you!

First of all, remember you are valid and not being open about agere for whatever reason doesn’t make you any less of a good age regressor than others.

If you have any tips or tricks that you use feel free to share them! This community is always safe for ideas and communication.

Ways to secretly regress:

- wearing over sized or bigger clothing, it can make you feel smaller. Similar to a kid in adult clothing

- water bottles. Almost everyone uses them but it can be like a replacement for a sippy cup or bottle.

- cut your food small, it can make you feel like a kid having to make their food smaller to eat it.

- watch animated films. Many adults and teens watch animated films. So it’s something that can make you feel small without giving it away.

- fidgets. Like a mature replacement for toys, most people don’t find fidgets to just be a “kid thing”

Apps and Links :

Spotify, Apple Music, any music app —>

- You can create playlists to listen to outside of the house or around people with songs that make you feel safe or small. This is one way to regress or feel smaller without letting others know.

Video games —>

- Minecraft, Roblox, Stardew Valley, terraria

- Candy Crush, Undertale

Meet and talk to other Agere —>

- Tumblr, Discord, HeySpace (though this isn’t the safest)

- TikTok, Reddit, Pillowfort.

Always be safe!! If you believe that for any reason being open about your age regression could cause you harm I ask that you wait until you are in a safe space.

SFW INTERACTIONS ONLY PLEASE

DNI: Nsfw, Nsfl, Ddlg, Kink, etc

[kitkio]

How to Find a Caregiver . . ☁️

🌼Some things to consider before you continue Reading,

Caregiver, handlers, etc aren’t needed nor required. You don’t need a caregiver to be a valid regressor. 🪷

Looking online for caregivers can be very dangerous, that means putting a lot of trust while you’re in a vulnerable state to someone you haven’t met. 🍓

🎀 And lastly, a caregiver should be someone you trust completely. Don’t settle or end up with someone harmful or untrustworthy just because you want someone to look after you. You deserve better than that. 🌿

Now, onto the actual finding a caregiver part. 🫐

🐋The best suggestion in my opinion is to find someone you trust in person and ask them. It can be very nerve racking but helpful in the end. If you’re a minor maybe think about asking your parents / guardian.

If you have a babysitter for when you’re small who frequently or normally babysits you then asking them to be your primary caregiver is another good idea !

Places I suggest more for online / digital caregiving is take pictures frequently, video call, or verbal call. As well as casual and constant conversation. Stay in touch. 🌊

The lack of a caregiver doesn’t make you any less valid. Caregivers can be helpful but aren’t a requirement. Don’t push yourself or get upset hung up on not having one.

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A few misconceptions I’d like to address and clear up about Agere and Petre.

Agere and Petre are in No way Nsfw. Everything about it should be and stay SFW.

There’s not an age limit for someone who can regress. You can be 15, 18, 90, etc and you’re still valid.

Petre, furries, and therians are different things. Being a furry is a choice, it does not involve regressing to a different mental state. Therians are not those who regress to nor dress up as animal.

You don’t need a caregiver / handler / etc to regress. Although some may consider it helpful it is not a requirement.

Being an agere doesn’t mean you have to or are required to enjoy things like cartoons, toys, etc. you are just as valid if you like scary movies, writing, etc.

Overall, Agere and Petre aren’t limited to certain people. Anyone can regress and you are valid for it.

DNI: Nsfw, Anti-Agere, Anti-Petre

[kitkio]

I think this is such a good point ! Involuntary age regression should be talked about so much more.

🪻 So, let’s talk about it! 🪻

🗝️ Involuntary Age regression is defined in two main ways!

The first type being regressing unintentionally and the second being regressing for negative reasons or doing negative things while regressed.

Age regression can be a fun hobby but for many of those in the community it’s used as a coping mechanism for negative emotions or trauma.

Since these things are so mentally heavy they can bleed into or cause involuntary age regression.

📞 Are you or others wrong for involuntary age regressing?

No. Not at all.

📓 Is it a choice?

Not always. I highly suggest that you and others don’t put themselves in situations to involuntary regress. It’s important that regression is a safe, comfortable experience for you.

🐦‍⬛ Message to caregivers of Age regressor who involuntarily regress:

Please understand that it’s not the regressors fault! And protect them and their innocence the best you can while they’re in that situation. Also, make sure not to scold them for doing so.

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I think involuntary regression should be talked about a bit more, or at least in a more kinder light. It feels very isolating alot of the ti

[kitkio]

so i rlly wanna ask my bestfriend if they'll be my cg, but i'm rlly scared bc i don't wanna bother them & it'll be awkward if they say no. they're a cg for their partner but (i'm not gonna go into full detail, but they care abt me more than their partner) so i feel like they'll say yes but idk?? i'm sorry if this is confusing i jst rlly need advice:((

Hello Anonymous. Finding someone safe and close to to be a caregiver is a very good idea!

For this situation in specific I suggest going for it. If you trust this person enough to ask them to be your caregiver then I think you should trust them enough to not be weird or awkward if it happens to be a no. The fact that they have experience being a caregiver is also good.

Id also like to say that going and asking for advice like this is incredibly smart and brave. The topic of asking someone to be a caregiver can be very vulnerable and I am very happy you were open to do so!

I wish you the best if luck with your friend and if you need any advice going forward don’t be scared to ask! I and the agere community are here for you and always will be.

[kitkio]

AGERE NICKNAMES ( TW: Bug mentions ) 💙

( Gender Neutral Agere Nicknames for The little ones )



🔹 Regular: 🔹

Little One, Baby, Hun, Hunny / Honey, Sweetheart, Angel, Dear, Darling.

Button, doll, doll face, tulip, love, lovely, love bug, Lili, Poppet, poppy, snowflake, sunshine.

🫐 Food Theme: 🫐

Sugar, Peach, Honey / Hon, Sweat Pea, peanut, Sweetie, Gumdrop, Cupcake, Muffin, Cutie Pie, Pumpkin, bean.

🦋 Animal Theme: 🦋

Bun, Bunny, Kit, Kitten, Cub, Pup, Puppy, Birdie, chick, Lamb, calf, fawn, tiger, piglet, carebear, bug.

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