#know it alls

[princesstigerbelle]

[wearingcrazyclothes]

I happen to think vocal majors are pricks. All of them. Vocal majors. Fuck them.

[slfrench]

They don't know what they're talking about. (Apply to any subject matter)

[madewithonerib]

5.] Dissatisfied/Embittered/Resentful

[B]  These are people like what Cynthia Heimel was        describing. These are people who got the things        they thought it was in & it wasn't in the things!

       There are at least 4 ways of responding to that..

First of all, C.S. Lewis speaks about some of that in his BBC Radio talk & his book: [25:50]

[1] Some people in this category get successful & they       find they are unhappy, and they are sure the real       problem was: "I need to get another set of things"

      So I got married, I'm not nearly as satisfied as I       thought, so I need another spouse. [26:14] 

      So I got this great career, I made this amount of       money, but I'm still not all that satisfied so I will       probably need to make twice as much money!

      Ah C.S. Lewis calls these the fools. [26:26]

      He says they are fools because they're a nuisance       to most people actually. [26:31]

      He says an awful lot of bored celebrities & wealthy       people are like this, and that is they got everything       they thought would make them happy.

      They are unhappy so they just keep discarding the       old thing & trying to find the new thing. If I just get       the right new things, then I'll get it!

      He calls those the fools.

[2] There is a 2nd group of people, who get successful       & find that they are unsatisfied; & I call them the       spiritualizing group. They have decided that their       mistake was, thought they were going to find IT in       material things, like money/sex/power.

      And instead they decide, I'm going to find my IT       [my satisfaction] in more spiritual things, so I'm       going to work for a better world.

      or I'm going to work for social justice, or I'm going       to help the poor, or you know I'm going to work on       meditation. I'll get to that in a minute.

      There are some people who might say,

      "Well my problem was I thought that success was       everything, so I'm just going to become a better       person. I'm going to start helping people, I am       going to start doing all these things.

      By the way, that will not make you frankly all that       happy either because it's hard work to do. [27:40] 

      It is very draining to do that,       it is not satisfying to do that.

[3] A 3rd kind of person who gets success & finds that       it has not satisfied them. They are the despairing       people, they are the people that kill themselves,       or hurt themselves, or cut themselves. [27:59] 

      Quite a few people who think that they are going       to find IT in things, & they find they got the things       they thought IT was in & they don't find it there,       some of them just give up. [28:08] 

[4] But lastly under this category, this is where most       people I think go. [28:15]

      In a place like NYC, where a lot of people have       been successful & they find that they haven't       found that satisfaction. What they do is  they       harden themselves. [28:23] 

      What they do is they say, "There is no IT! And       these deep desires of mine are just illusions,       they're just illusions!" [28:35] 

I think C.S. Lewis actually describes this person in his radio talk, I think he says something like this. If I can remember correctly, this is the self-talk of a person like this:

   "Well of course one feels like that when one    is young, but by the time you get to my age    you've given up chasing the rainbow's end."

And Lewis says, "So this kind of person settles down, learns not to expect much out of life & represses the part of himself that used to as he would say, [29:14]

   'cry for the moon.'" 

Now on the one hand, a person like that become very condescending. On the other hand, a person like that becomes very hard. [29:23] 

You see, if you decide: "Look I wanted so much out of life, but I was crying for the moon, I'm wiser now, I'm more sophisticated now.

You know:

   •  Romance never gives you much.    •  Money never gives you much.    •  Everybody is on the take.

You know nothing really satisfies!"

So you harden yourself, and you become cynical & you become sophisticated. [29:44] 

And to a degree it works, but there are two things that are really really bad about that:

[1] You become a remarkable snob, you are so self-       righteous at anybody who still thinks life has       meaning. You look down your nose at them.

      You become a stuck up prig. [30:03] 

[2] But here's the other thing, which is even worse,       you're hardening a part of your heart that makes       you human: To long for love, to long for meaning       to long for satisfaction & fulfillment--is part of       what makes you human! [30:20] 

And by repressing that part, by rolling your eyes at everybody whose idealistic--you have actually hurt yourself pretty badly. [30:32] 

You've actually destroyed the part of you that makes you a human being & not an animal. [30:36] 

   •  Animals just operate on instinct.    •  Human being have aspirations.

Hope Beyond Walls of the World | Timothy J. Keller P1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 | Q1,2,3,4,5,6,7

[sacredbloominglotus]

[justsayun]

Excuse my compliments

I never claimed to be brainy as a college professor.  I'm not one who considers must-see TV watching Jeopardy.   Oh, no thank you to crossword puzzles.  But I certainly don't consider myself a dummy.  Yesterday while putting gas in the car my wife ran into the store and got us a couple of fountain drinks.  As she returned and hopped into the car she handed my drink to me and said: "You wanted a medium?"  I told her that's right I think that size matriculates into the cup holder better than the large size.  She jumped in and said:  I don't think matriculates the right word for what you were trying to say?"  We went back and forth for a while.  I explained even though she's taking doctoral courses she doesn't know everything.  I expressed that she might peek in the  Thesaurus.  She in her smart-aleck tone mentioned perhaps a Dictionary would be a better choice.  Sure for amateur wordsmiths.  The wife reminded me of my creative word usage at the store a few days earlier.  We ran into a female friend who was dressed very alluring for a night out I would guess.  I mentioned how nice she looked and tossed out the phrase "Chicky-Chicky Bow Wow".   It seems that was insensitive word usage in this day and age. (That's news to me.)  Hey, at least I didn't say "Wow that dress matriculates your figure."  I wonder how she would have handled that compliment?  I got behind some yahoo in the mall parking lot and ended up following him for a couple of minutes.  We surprisingly parked near each other.  As this overly cautious gentleman exited his car I expressed how I never realized you could set a vehicle cruise control on 12mph. (He smiled which made me think he appreciated my car knowledge.) My wife said I was ridiculous.  I did make that comment with a smile on my face and in my heart.  I think words can be fun.  I'm going to try and use matriculate whenever possible.  Sure I'm not a college professor with a life full of fancy wine and escargot.  I will admit, I occasionally like to pop open a bottled water from Mexico.

[random-fandom-mandom]

These stupid soul reapers who won’t ACTUALLY look into things.

Suspect all around