#lesbiansafe

[apatheistlesbian]

just a reminder that the lesbian community would be nothing without

trans lesbians

butch lesbians

black lesbians

disabled lesbians

Thank you for your time :)

[riotkittiesarchive]

beware of attack lesbian!! reblog if you too are, indeed, an attack lesbian

[breederbutch]

you can honestly tell a lot about a butch by if they’re always talking about how small and short their ideal/desired femme is, how weak she is.

like it's so obvious you’re intimidated by fat, tall, strong femmes who you would actually have to work out to pick up and overpower or who you'd have to dominate without looking down at.

it's not about wanting a really feminine partner or being ofos or wanting a submissive pillow princess. fat femmes and tall femmes and strong femmes (and combinations of such) are often all of those things. and it's not that they’re too "unladylike" to participate in the butch/femme dynamic. if you are worried they don’t bring the femmeness you want to have in your relationship, it's because you can only feel/be butch if the femme next to you is short or skinny. and that's really embarrassing honestly, especially given how much of the prominent femmes in our history were fat or taller than their butch.

men, 17-, inc3st/r-pe/ag3pl4y/lesphobic kink apologists dni

[dorothylarouge]

Trying a new top today

[movedto-breederbutch]

Sex and Rage Lesbian Strip Club (December 2022, March 2023) and Sex and Rage Spank Holiday Weekend (May 2022) in London by Imogen Cleverley. More info below and at the link. Men and Minors DNI.

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2. Munya and Sakeema Crook

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4. Black Venus

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8. Samantha Sun

9. Maddie

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[sapphos-darlings]

[tytonidyke]

Was feeling my fit today

[tactfullyinappropriate]

Ohhh boy, I'm gonna get a lot of flak for this one but... masc lesbian =/= butch. You can be the most masculine presenting person the world has ever known and that does not automatically make you butch.

Butch is an identity and you kinda need to fit that identity, not make the identity fit you. E.g. "lesbians" who are attracted to cishet men. Sorry, hun, you're just not a lesbian. Find your own identity that fits. You are allowed to be your own kind of bisexual or pansexual but what you are not, is a lesbian.

Sure, there is a lot of room for being your own person within an identity. I am not the same kind of lesbian as the next dyke. But if I did not fit (or if I no longer fit) the definition of the lesbian identity, I wouldn't call myself one and insist that lesbians expand the definition to include me.

'Butch' as an identity exists within a certain context. It *is not* a synonym to man, and it's also not a synonym to 'a masculine presenting lesbian'. If you don't vibe with the whole 'chivalry' concept and the specific ways in with butch/femme courtship (as an example) happens, maybe consider if this is the right label for you before insisting that we expand or rather completely rewrite the definition to exclude those things from it.

Some of the discourse around 'we should redefine butch!' reminds me of the discourse around redefining manhood. "It's not fair that men are expected to have masculine hobbies," they say. "It's not fair that men cannot wear glitter and makeup and retain their manhood. It's not fair that men are expected to open doors, and carry heavy things, and to-to---" Yes. You are exactly right. But butches are not men.

'Butch' is an opt-in identity, not something that society at large expects and requires from you. In other words: if you think femmes gushing about being courted by their butches in what to you appears to be a 1960s play-pretend of patriarchy, is silly, objectifying or demeaning toward one of the parties... consider that maybe 'butch' is not the identity for you. That maybe you are a masculine person with their own unique take on masculinity.

But insisting that we redefine butch is like me insisting that we redefine 'yoga' because I vibe with the gymnastics but I don't like the spiritual aspect of it. I can just go to Pilates instead. Or do yoga and accept that other people in the practice experience it differently.

What I am endlessly tired of, as a femme, is being lectured on what I *should* and *should not* find attractive. I am not somehow betraying feminism, objectifying people and degrading myself by daydreaming of a butch who opens the car door for me or - the absolute horror - brings me flowers on a date. I recognize that other people have the right to their own attraction and that masculine lesbians deserve the freedom to explore masculinity on their own terms and be treated with dignity and respect regardless of where that exploration takes them and regardless of who does or does not find them attractive.

That being said, the whole narrative of 'if you find chivalry hot, then you are objectifying butches and you are, in fact, an entitled selfish person' is tiresome. Not all femmes are women but in being chastised for our turn-ons and romantic daydreams (unless we're the Cool Girl who doesn't like flowers and rolls her eyes at romance) I see a lot of the admonishment directed toward cis straight women who dare to swoon when they read romance where the male lead is courteous and generous.

Except, again, butch/femme *is not* man/woman. It's a particular subculture within the lesbian identity and no one is pressuring anyone into conforming to it.