Jumping on the dnd questions. I've always really wanted to play but have no idea how to get started. I don't know anybody who plays or any groups nearby
Yo I am gonna share a buck wild fact with you: most people are willing to play tabletop games if you explain what they actually are.
My cool friends with slick sales careers who go to bars a lot like Cool People, who had never even heard of tabletop gaming? Asked me to DM a try-on session for them after we spent half an hour chatting over dinner about the campaign I’m running now. (I haven’t had time yet.) My 60 year old mother, whose only exposure to DnD was the Satanism scare in the 1970s, lamented that she lives all the way out in California so she can’t get me to come DM for her and her friends, after we talked about my current campaign. Tabletop gaming is really fucking fun. If you can get people past the cliched image of a group of heavy mouth breathers slurping down Cheetos in a funny-smelling basement, and talk to them about what tabletop gaming is actually like, it’s like–fuck yeah I wanna be a wizard! At least to try?? It sounds cool!
YOU: Hey, guys, I want to try out tabletop gaming, have you ever heard of that?
YOUR FRIENDS: No, what is it?
YOUR FRIENDS, ALTERNATELY: Isn’t that that gross thing that nerds do?
YOU, ALTERNATELY: No, it’s not actually like that.
YOU: So, we’d get together as a group, and like, everyone has a character, their own character. And one person, probably me, doesn’t have a character, they’re the person who says what the world does. (You will probably have to DM your first campaign, if this is your idea. Maybe you will turn out to love it! Probably one of your friends will realize they want to be doing the thing that you’re doing if you don’t. Look around at your friends, one of them is a DM and just doesn’t know it yet.) Like, I’d be the one who says “The prince summons all of your characters to his court because he wants you to assassinate somebody,” and then you guys, the players, would get to react to that the way your characters would react. Or I’d be like, “And then the train goes off the rails, what do you do?” and you guys would be like, “Oh, my character can fly, so I’m going to go out the window,” or whatever.
YOU, CONTINUING: There’s like, some rules and stuff? Just to keep things interesting and unpredictable. But it’s mostly a thing where you get together with your friends and you create a story together. Sometimes people get really into their characters, and what’s happening to them. It’s like, you know…using your imagination, for grown-ups.
YOUR FRIENDS, POTENTIALLY: Okay, kind of weird, but okay, I’d be willing to give it a try.
YOUR FRIENDS, ALTERNATELY: That sounds kind of embarrassing? I don’t know if I could do that.
YOU: Don’t worry about it we’ll have booze, just think of it like a party game, it starts off kind of embarrassing but then you have three drinks and you realize you’re having a lot of fun.
YOUR FRIENDS, HOPEFULLY - AND THIS HAS BEEN MY EXPERIENCE EVERY TIME I HAVE HAD THIS CONVERSATION WITH ANYBODY: What the fuck, that’s a thing?? That sounds so cool!! I want to use my imagination!!
I have heard what the fuck that’s a thing that’s so cool I want to use my imagination from people I would NEVER have expected to be down with DnD. People I thought would be VASTLY TOO COOL for DnD. I think it mostly comes from the fact that I’M genuinely into it, and I make it sound fun, and that kind of energy is infectious. If you bring “I want to tabletop game” to your group of friends like a gangrenous wound you’re embarrassed you’re making them look at, it won’t go great.