4. Who was the first person you came out to? How did they take it?
well, true to my oblivious state, i didn’t know i was queer, i was actively denying it “just because i can appreciate the female form, doesn’t mean i’m gay!”, so tbh my friends kinda outed me to me?? but when i finally accepted it i told like a group of my friends from college and they just laughed and said finally and they’d all placed bets on when it’d finally happen so they were cashing in ahaha
17. Have you ever been to a gay bar or a gay club?
yeah, been to both, partied in both, manchester has the gay village and they’re just so fun
39. What is your ideal first date?
i think it kinda depends on the vibe of the person, but honestly sitting down for a coffee, a wee pastry or something is good, it gives you easy talking points, and things to busy yourself with, and importantly, it gives you the opportunity to actually get to know someone. whether they’re a tea or a coffee person, whether they take sugar, etc.
100. What advice would you give a girl who is struggling to come out?
i think coming out is different for different people and the truth is, whether it’s the first time, or the hundredth time there’s always some aspect that’s a little bit terrifying - but you learn to deal with it. for me, the most important things to remember, is that it often feels like a relief to finally say it out loud, and to remember your safety. Your safety is the most important thing, try and find some indication that saying it out loud isn’t gonna get you in some perilous situation. It’s usually easier to go to a best friend, someone who you’re really close to who will essentially love you no matter what, it’s a good place to start, to rip the bandaid off. and remember to love yourself no matter how anyone reacts.