Alright so I have had very strong feelings for this guy for about four years now and it's never worked out because the timing has never been right because we have been in relationships with other people. But now we are both finally single and like each other but the thing about him is that he is quite a reserved and traditional guy and I feel like I am somehow going to mess up my chances and it won't work out. I really like him but i just don't know how to make the move and get the ball rolling.
Have you ever seen those taiwanese romance dramas? Where two people are drawn to eachother and just never seems to work. Other relationships, distance, etc, always seems to come between them. About halfway into the series there’s this moment, where they could be together, but they don’t know it, and you just wish one of them would run to the other, and their pain would end.
My friend, you are in the drama, you are your own hero, and you know you have a chance now.
Why are you here? Oh my goodness, run!
Look, this is scary, of course it is, but you have to take a chance here, and tell the person you care about, that you care about them. If telling someone you’re interested in them means they won’t have a relationship with you, then that’s... I mean that sucks but that’s not a relationship you should really be in anyways. I’m sorry but to be in a healthy working relationship you have to be able to communicate and accept that both partners have feelings and thoughts and should express them.
In any case, RUN! Go go go! Brush your teeth, put on matching panties, text him on your way to a restaurant to pick up Chinese, or whatever his favorite food is. Hell, get him flowers if you think he’d like them. Go to him, meet up with him. And just be honest. Tell him you’ve cared for him and wanted something more ever since that one time 4 years ago when he opened the door for you, or when he helped you with a problem, or didn’t laugh when you walked into a pole. (Done that). Write it on a card if you can’t say it out loud. Stand by while he reads it.
Make the leap, my friend. Give him a chance to catch you. And reconcile the fact that, someone who needs to be the one to make the first move, who isn’t able to accept you just saying you care for him before he says it, isn’t someone you can have a long-term healthy relationship with.
As for how to make the leap, like I said, a card, or a letter could work. Send him a text to go eat lunch or get coffee or take a walk at the park. Just hang out at his house. Gather your wits, wing that eyeliner, make a plan, and just go! Do it fast, please, before your window of time closes.
YOU CAN DO THIS, I swear to you you can.