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GIVING IT TO HIM WHENEVER IS CONVENIENT FOR HIM

I was talking to my friend, Devyn, explaining how at her sorority party, her date disappeared the whole night. She has been talking to him for a few weeks now, but nothing serious. At the end of the night, he re-appeared and then ended up spending the night together and had sex. This just reinforces his control in the “relationship” and that females let the males make the decision. Women sometimes need to establish dominance and control, and that should be normal. Women should not feel the need to cater to all of men’s needs and be at their disposal. Humans should just be genuine with each other and straight up about what they want. Males need to stop being so controlling and feeling that they have any girl they want at any time.

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HE SHOULD PAY

I was having a conversation with my friend Molly, who just recently starting dating this man. She was saying how kind he was, and that he always pays for the date and that she wouldn’t go out with a guy who didn’t ALWAYS pay. I found this quite ridiculous. This feeds into the stereotype that males need to have control and make all the money and take care of everything money related while the girl sits back. I don’t mind paying for a bill. It is nice to be treated to dinner, but I don’t mind if I have to pay, especially at this age when we are all so young and broke. Females should not feed into the stereotype and should start paying for their significant other sometimes too, because from what I know, men are not cash machines, especially early adult men. Women need to assert some control into relationships. 

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“I CAN DO IT, I’M A MAN”

So the other day at Thanksgiving dinner, my Aunt Jen was handling the dessert - cutting the pie and serving ice cream. She was going around and asking everybody what they wanted and everybody was answering and she had a whole system. Until it got to her husband, Uncle Jeff. He stood up from the dining table and came over to the kitchen and said “I can do it myself, I’m a man.” She was like just relax, sit down, I’m handling this. They fought for another minute about it, until she finally gave in when she realized he wasn’t gonna sit down and let it go unless she let him do it his way. She was perfectly capable of giving him what he wanted and asked for, but he needed to have total control over the situation. This example shows how he is furthering the stereotype that males need control in a relationship and in situations. Women are not “supposed” to have control and be asking questions, they are supposed to be answering the questions and taking care of the kids or chores. 

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I CAN’T TEXT HIM FIRST

I was talking to my roommate, Jordan, and she was explaining about how she never texts guys first because it’s the guys job. I found this interesting because instead of just texting or talking to someone when you want to, you have to let the guy approach you first or text you first because that’s their “job.” It’s like a lot of girls are letting the guys have all the power and control in the relationship, and girls just respond when necessary. Men are seen as the superior and dominant figure in a relationship, and women really just respond and follow along with what they say. Males are typically known to have total control in relationships, and the women reinforce that behavior and believe that it is normal. In reality, people have different personalities and behaviors - males shouldn’t be stereotyped as being controlling and women shouldn’t be stereotyped as being passive.