#malia replies

[rabbityshen]

ah sometimes i do it in class too but i can usually shame myself out of it. unu i feel silly with head down like that. maybe scratching your head? or doing smth special with your hair so you have a reason not to mess it up. or cut it off like me :’)

mmm yeah. i already have short hair so my choices are basically a buzz cut or completely shaved head (none of which are bad, but i do like my hair being a little but longer than that)

maybe i'll wear hair clips every day. that will be my Thing.

[rabbityshen]

i probably dont do it enough for trich levels, but brushing my hair can help (the sensation). also putting a hat on or a hood up. maybe making it wet would too? i tend to not touch my hair when it's wet.

mmm i do like the sensation of brushing my hair and i tend to not touch my hair when it's wet too but i can't ever have a hat on for more than 10 minutes (my head is pretty bag for most hats).

also i've been doing during class and it can't keep my hair wet all the time or always brush it im just

ugh

[rabbityshen]

could you give yourself something similar to pull? like partially-unwould cloth on the end of your sleeves or integrated into your clothing?

i don't think that would work because though it is partly a fidgety, soothing, boredom type habit, i know it's connected to my self-consciousness about my body. same goes for my #dermatillomania. it's like im not only grossed out and displeased with my body's flaws but also fascinated with them. i like doing these things and examining the damage and/or flaw.

i only pull out hairs that feel weird. i pick at gross spots on my arms. and i hate it but it's stimulating too.

[rabbityshen]

ofdragonlords replied to your post: “never gonna get over this asmr video title”:

I LISTEN TO THAT VID ALL THE TIME TO HELP ME FALL ASLEEP ISN'T IT GREAT !! I GET TO RELAX TO NERDY FALLOUT ASMR VIDS HELL YEAH

I'VE NEVER LISTENED TO IT BUT IF YOU LIKE IT I'LL TRY

[rabbityshen]

waaty replied to your post: “hey yo gsm isn't a very good term because the word minority implies inferiority which obvs isn't good u_u i actually posted about this yesterday a little bit i think but yeah idk it's just not a very good term”:

really, is minority seen this way at a larger level? usually minority is just about frequency. like for example, race x is a minority in country y, but race x is a majority in country x. what other words could be used...?

same.

i saw "gender and sexuality diversity" but it feels too broad and vague tbh. like a concept instead of a community name.

[rabbityshen]

waaty replied to your post: waaty replied to your post: “torn between wanting...

hmm if you have a final paper maybe do the academia one for the final?? or maybe if you’re going to be taking higher level classes in the same concentration, save it for a more advanced class.

well it's a final paper and it isn't. we're going to be working on it nearly all semester basically with graded check-ins (tomorrow my proposal is due with a draft thesis and rough bibliography) so i shouldn't be struggling in a way that's too bad.

again, if i write within a narrow context of gender and sexuality academics at tulane vs. rl community discourse and opinions (and the mix of both) it would be more manageable while still writing a paper on something important and interesting--just on a smaller scale.

[rabbityshen]

waaty replied to your post: “torn between wanting to do a paper on the disconnect between academia...”:

academia one sounds interesting but representation sounds easier. unless you can think of a lot to write for the former you might be better off with the latter.

yeah it is....

i emailed my prof and she said it would a be a very good but hard topic and that she could help me.

i'm thinking of narrowing my scope (it's only a 5 page paper) to focusing on my own campus and academic facilities so that i can a field of being able to interview students and faculty and maybe some analysis and studies through academic databases to see how they match up with my findings.

[rabbityshen]

freckledzombie replied to your post: “torn between wanting to do a paper on the disconnect between academia...”:

The academia one sounds so good.................

as someone wholoves academia WOW academia re: gender and sexuality tends to be outdated and cringe-worthy at best