How To Nail A First Date #Matrostyle
Dating, in the modern world of apps, online sites, and feminist movements, is more complicated than it used to be. Bravo for even considering the endeavor after all this time out of the game.
I will say the best part of dating is its great equalizer – time. Women age and clocks start counting down priorities vs. preferences. Men mature into their looks and also begin prioritizing quality over preferences. Personality and a sense of humor can surpass good looks. A secure retirement plan and stable career can veto the spontaneous artist with the voice of an angel. The great news is there’s still hope, but not without your fair share of stress. Hopefully these easy five tips will help minimize the headaches and illuminate the highlights.
· Ask with Purpose and Intention. Contrary to some modern theories, you actually have to ask the woman on a real date: calendar date, time, and place. That is the bare minimum. If you know her well enough, offer to pick her up at her place. If you’re complete strangers, drive separately. She will appreciate the option to escape, but hopefully she won’t feel the need to.
· Manners Matter. Be on time, open the doors, pull out her chair, use eye contact, consult her in the decision-making process, and listen to what she tells you. You wanted this opportunity with her, so treat the date accordingly. Even if you are only interested in sexual activities, treat her with the same respect you would want a man to treat your female family members.
· Go Beyond Small Talk. Often people find themselves caught up in the standard Q&A session: career/occupation, kids, previous relationships, what you do for fun, etc. Rarely does this information tell you whether this individual will be the one you want to spend all day Sunday with or even all night Friday, so ask the real questions. Ideally try to find common ground or at least overlapping humor. Make the most of the time you have; this is the first date and a second one isn’t guaranteed.
· Be Decent. You don’t have to be amazing, but you do have to be decent. Whether she decides to continue the evening or not, still keep your manners. If you both realize within the first 10 minutes that the feelings aren’t mutual enough to fake through, respectfully propose to end the evening early. If you’re not sure where you rate with her, ask. She may cushion the blow with a white lie after putting her on the spot, but in the end she will appreciate your forwardness.
· Thank Her for the Evening. Regardless of the outcome, at one point in time this date was exactly what you wanted and she accepted. Thank her for taking the time out of her life to see what’s between you two. Don’t embellish, don’t lie, but appreciate the fact she could have said no and didn’t.
These tips are not guaranteed to get you laid, married, or even in a steady relationship, but these tips will enable you to date sans bullshit and save you from wasting each other’s time while preserving your reputation.
