Student Voices from Abroad Ally Madden ‘16
Friendships Solidified Abroad ~ Part One: Ode to Lyd
When I am asked how I liked my six months abroad in Italy, invariably my answer consists of how beautifully ancient the historical sites were, how delicious the food and wine, and how invigorating traveling within Italy and to other European countries was, but without a shadow of a doubt what became most important to me was not the places I saw, or the food I ate, but the people I met.
Last January as I was preparing for my international flight to Bologna, I could hardly contain my immense excitement for the whole new world that would be offered to me in Europe, but I was not quite sure what to expect. I anticipated becoming much better versed in the Italian language as well as learn about the country’s culture and history. What I ended up discovering, however, was an essential way in which I want to live my life by fostering within myself an unabashed curiosity not only with my surroundings, but the people who surrounded me.
By engaging in conversation with new people every day, I learned how to ask questions that facilitate conversation and that can lead to friendship. I learned how important it is to listen deeply to what people are telling me and how seriously life-changing that can be. By changing my perspective to always wanting to learn about others, I fostered some of the closest friendships in my life within a six month period.
One of the dearest friendships I cultivated while studying in Italy was actually with a girl from Berlin, Germany. Her name is Lydia Müller (Lydi for short, but I further shorten it to Lyd). I met Lydia in our theatrical literature course at the University of Bologna entitled Letteratura Teatrale. The first day I entered the classroom, Lydi was the sole student in class. I walked in, a bit late might I add, to the professor’s indignation and Lydia’s relief at not being the one recipient of an Italian lecture. The next week Lydia and I met up for coffee (hot chocolate for her, since she greatly dislikes coffee) and she caught me up on the notes I had missed. I happened to be wearing my Harry Potter rugby style-shirt, which I like to call my Quidditch shirt. We immediately bonded when she commented upon it and we disclosed to each other that we both belong in Hufflepuff house. As Lydia and I learned more about one another, we shared where we were each from and she told me she was working on her English! We agreed that we could each teach one another little bits of our own languages. I pulled out my handy-dandy journal and Lyd jotted down some simple German phrases. One I use all the time, even today: ‘Gut, gut, alles gut,’ sounds just as we would say ‘Good, good, all is good,’ in English. Another term: ‘Jagenau,’ means ‘Yes, true’!
Overall, I have been blessed to see how similar and different Lydia's upbringing and my own have been. As the two of us learned about Italy, we simultaneously learned about one another’s cultures. This deep friendship was a first-hand example for me of how multi-cultural Europe is and how much you can gain by simply hearing someone’s story.