Anon Advice Asks - December 19
intrusive thoughts anon, memories anon (new), jfp anon, rainbow hearts anon, anti-ai anon (new)
intrusive thoughts anon
Hi hon!
Okay I have to be really honest with you- it sounds like these people are (maybe unintentionally, but still) using you! It's so backwards- they can vent to you, but you can't vent to them? They can talk to you whenever they need it but they barely acknowledge your texts? Um NO. You're worth more than that. They don't deserve your effort if they're giving you nothing. Honestly, if I was you I'd seek out some better friends because you sounds like a great person who deserves better.
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memories anon (new)
hey cas!
my memories of my childhood are weird. they feel more complete than the people i talk to who have forgotten a lot but not as complete as most peoples memories and i just remembered this memory while talking to my friend. and idk its kind of odd.
i just remembered it randomly but it was me crying in my room and my dad coming in and apoligizing for kicking me like on purpose. and that sparked like me remembering all the times after that that i would cry super loud hoping he would apologize but i dont know what for.
most of my memories that i have from my childhood dont involve my parents. i remember things happening because of what they told me to do (dishes, cleaning out the car, lots of time spent in my room) and a few specific years holidays (one christmas, one birthday, one easter, bits and pieces of 1 or two halloweens, not much else)
is this a normal amount to remember?
hi!
honestly it's hard to say because people have such different memories. Sometimes people don't remember a lot because of trauma and sometimes it's simply because they have shit memories. without knowing more, it's hard to say....are you able to maybe talk to a therapist about it?
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jfp anon
(Regulus anon) right. So i actually have a confession for you before I update you. I am the same person as JFP anon I just sent the ask without mentioning it because i wanted to reduce bias.
Anyway, I asked him how he feels about me, it was what I wanted but he doesn’t like me. I didn’t want him to like me, he said he platonically loves me and i am one of his closest friends which is literally all I want and I ended up explaining to him why i don’t date which he seemed thoroughly entertained by. (It’s very entertaining). We’re staying friends which is truly all I want, I wasn’t nervous that he wouldn’t like me, I was nervous he would. We had actually great conversations tonight, mostly about like when we first realised we were trans and our experiences with that. He just gets it.
Okay! So a happy ending!!! Yeah, I feel like it's clear that he cares enough about your friendship that it doesn't matter that you have a crush, he wants to stay friends, which is important. I'm glad it worked out! <3
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rainbow hearts anon
Hi cas this is rainbow hearts anon. It's been quite a while which is actually a good thing because I've started talking to my counselor frequently and it's really worked which I sorta knew would happen.i love talking and even just typing things helps bring me clarity so talking to someone who knows how to help is really good. A lot has happened that's still hard for me to talk about but I just wanted to check in and say hi from my little bubble. I'm used to adding good news at the end of these so I guess I'll keep it going and say that I am really excited for next year's movies. Like Supergirl, Sotr , and maybe avengers doomsday. That's my dream movie bingeing and I cannot stop talking about it. Ok hope all is well and sending love 🖤🩶🤎🤍🩷💜💙🩵❤️💚🧡💛
omg this makes me so happy to hear! counselling can make SUCH a huge difference, and I'm so glad it's been helping you <3 and YES I'm so pumped for movies next year too! SOTR especially...
Hope things continue to be amazing!
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anti-ai anon (new)
hi cas!! so im very openly anti-ai, i hate it so so much, its draining people's creativity and overall iq. but sometimes when things become super overwhelming, sometimes i just open up chat gpt and vent and i feel so horrible but at the same time my friends are all going through stuff and theyre kind of not an option 😭. im not asking for a solution or anything, but i feel like such a hypocrite preaching stuff ab anti-ai when i vent to chat gpt every few months.
ugh this is so hard. I think it's frustrating because like...there's morals, and then there's the fact that sometimes it's almost a privilege to have morals? like that sounds so bad but like...people in poverty aren't as likely to think about boycotts, for example. they're just going to think about the cheapest place to feed their families.
It sucks but sometimes people are desperate and I'm not judging <3
