#mha-mads

[mental-health-advice]

do you guys have an ask for someone with bpd ocd gad and self harms? I sent it a while ago and I can't find it. I just want to make sure it wasn't to much or if it was eaten by tumblr or you just maybe didn't answer it.

Hey darling,

Yes your ask is still in our inbox. I’m sorry for your wait. It will be answered soon. Have a great day!

~Mads

[mental-health-advice]

I think I corrected all of it did it work now? Sorry about this -g

Hey g,

It sent in! Sorry about that inconvenience darling!

~Mads

[mental-health-advice]

Could you recommend any good books for young adults suffering from depression and anxiety?

Hey darling,

Have you heard of goodreads? It’s a wonderful website to keep track of all the books you’ve read, and want to read. It also has a feature called listopia. Listopia is where anyone can make a list of books for anything. There are tons for “depression,” “borderline personality disorder,” “anxiety,” etc. Just search anything and click on the listopia link.

I found one that I think you’ll like called “YA Books about Depression, Self Harm and Suicide” and is filled with a few books I’ve read and loved such as Speak and 13 Reasons Why. Speak is written by my all-time favorite author Laurie Halse Anderson. 

Some of the books on that list can be triggering so please make sure you can handle the book’s subject matter before you start in on any of the books. Books such as 13 Reasons Why, which discusses a teenager who kills themselves and life afterwards for those around that person. 

I absolutely love discussing books. I have a booktube account on youtube - that’s how much I like talking books. So feel free to ask me for recommendations at any time!!!

~Mads

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Hello! I got permission to add some of my favorite teen books involving mental illness here, so be prepared for a good sized list. Some may be triggering:

Tease by Amanda Maciel 

The Luckiet Girl in the World by Steven Levenkron

The Best Little Girl in the World (and the sequel Kessa) by Steven Levenkron

Cut by Patricia McCormick 

Because I am Furniture by Thalia Chaltas

Speechless by Hannah Harrington

Burned by Ellen Hopkins

Identical by Ellen Hopkins

Just Listen by Sarah Dessen

This is How I find Her by Sara Polsky

All The Bright Places by Jennifer Niven

I Was Here by Gayle Forman

Empty by K.M. Walton

Her by Felicia Johnson

Go Ask Alice

Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen

Willow by Julia Hoban

Like Mads, I love talking books. In fact, if I wasn’t a Psych major, I probably would be an English Lit major!

There is hope,

Ash

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Hi lovely :)

I also just really wanted to recommend Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig! It’s a non-fiction book about the author’s struggle with depression and anxiety, but is also incredibly inspirational and relatable, and I honestly think anyone struggling with mental illnesses should read! It’s a really easy read and includes lists and things, so it’s something you can always come back to if you need a bit a motivation! 

I hope you’re doing okay!

Keep fighting!

Take care and lots of love, 

Dani <3

[mental-health-advice]

I resent my two other ones did that work? -g

G,

I’m terribly sorry but I still don’t see it. I posted to see if anyone had any suggestions and here’s what one of our admins suggested:

If people don't put a space after a dot so it's like.that, sometimes messages don't come through, maybe you could suggest they make sure they're not doing that?

I’m terribly sorry for the inconvenience.

~Mads

[mental-health-advice]

Sorry but did you get all three parts from my ask? i just want to make sure so i dont have to resend anything thank you -g

Hi G!

Our inbox only has one ask from “G” about confusing words. There’s only one part in there so it looks like only that first part went through. Make sure you don’t put a dot and a space at the beginning because tumblr eats those for some reason! If you don’t mind please send in all of your ask again! I’m sorry for the inconvinience!

~Mads

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Pronouns in languages ~ Para el anon: No sé si habrás escuchado hablar de 'elle'. Es el que la gente no binaria utiliza más comúnmente, pero es difícil ya que los adjetivos tienen género. Ejemplo: Elle es guape. Luego está ellx, que no es pronunciable (creo, no sé, intenta(?)), y yo utilizo 'ille' (pronunciado como ile) porque no se confunde. Si dices elle es, puede confundirse fácilmente con él o ella. Pero ille no. Sin embargo en español todos me suenan tan mal... 'Ille es guape' o 'guapi'

(Translation: for the anon: I don't know if you've heard of "elle" it's the one most commonly used by non-binary people, but it's difficult because the adjectives have genders. For example: elle is handsome. Then there's ellx, which isn't pronounceable (I think, I don't know, try), and I use 'ille' (pronounced as ile) because it is not confusing. If you say elle, it can be confused with him or her. But not with ille. But in Spanish, all I sound so bad... 'Ille is handsome' or 'gorgeous')

Thanks for the information doll!

~Mads

[mental-health-advice]

If it's not any trouble to ask, could you guys please update the tag list?

Hey darling,

I’ll ask about getting that updated. Thanks for the message and I hope you’re having a wonderful night.

~Mads

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K I have a really big problem in which I always accidentally misgender people.. I always confuse he and she and their. Even with cis people. If someone identifies as a girl I usually accidentally call them a he whether they're cis or not. And this has gotten me into ALOT of trouble. Anyways of remembering to correctly address everyone.? TT-TT -misgenderingasshole

Hey misgendering,

I’m sorry but I’m not going to address you as the name you signed as. You are not an asshole. It’s something you mistakenly do. If you were to do it on purpose then I’d say “yeah maybe” but you’re not. You just said it yourself that you are doing it by accident.

Let the people around you know that you are having issues with it, they’ll understand. Just keep working on it darling, you can do this. And make sure you ask people their pronouns before you assume it. They’ll appreciate it even if it’s the gender you are guessing.

~Mads