In honour of Mindfulness Day tomorrow we’re sharing a short extract from A Year of Living Mindfully by Anna Black
Being Present in Mind and Body
A sign outside a café read: “No WiFi—Please talk to each other instead.” Although it raised a smile it is unfortunate that it is now too often the norm to meet up with friends or family and spend the time with heads down checking the latest update on our phone, or perhaps taking pictures to upload instantly and show our virtual friends what a wonderful time we are having. When we are somewhere else mentally, we might as well not be present physically. When we are not present with someone, they may feel neglected and ignored.
This week, practice being present with friends, family, and colleagues.
• Turn off your phone and put it out of sight. Having it on the table next to you gives a message that something may take precedence over your time with this person.
• Notice where your mind goes. Every time you are aware of it drifting off, bring it back in the same way as you do when you meditate.
• Notice whether any particular emotions are arising—perhaps restlessness or the wish to be somewhere else. Whatever comes up, acknowledge it, tune into the body, and explore any sensations that accompany it.
• Practice Mindful Listening.
• Reflect on how being present with someone both physically and mentally affects the encounter and the relationship. What do you notice?