Family Oriented
I went through some of my posts yesterday and I realized that the last time I wrote about anyone in my family it was not the nicest of posts. It was 2 years ago and guess I was fighting with my mum. And reading it I tried so hard to remember what it was all about but for the life of me I couldn’t figure it out.
Which just revealed something so important. I realized how resilient a loving family is. In a home or a family where there is love above all else then its easy to remember why you love that person so much. For example my mum and have been in such a good space for sometime now and its because the more I grow the easier it is to learn how to speak to her and be around her without causing drama and arguments.
Don’t get me wrong we still argue and give each other the silent treatment and heck I still lie to both my mum and brother sometimes but now I’ve reached a point where no matter how bad an argument was or how upset I am I can’t even imagine not being proactively in their lives.
I love my mother so much!
And I love my brother so much!
I realized that sometimes everyone just needs space and that’s important. I can argue with my brother and get so mad at him that I just want to scream but the second he gives me space to calm down and continue with what I was doing the next time I see him I’m no longer mad and sometimes he comes back after ten minutes. I swear I have to put more effort to be mad at him then to forgive him
Which leads to my next point. Your family is the only place where you have almost unlimited chances if not completely unlimited(Hey your folks might just have a limit). Think of all the times you’ve messed up, been rude, stolen something(Don’t Lie) and lied. And over and over again your parents or siblings have forgiven you. I know that’s not the case for all families but for a good number of families. Family is the one place where people keep on giving.
My knowledge for today is this: If you love your family and you have a fight(which is inevitable) remember that feeling you get when you think of them getting hurt or not being in your life. I’ve found that it’s a great motivation for forgiveness. Also take some time off after an argument to cool down. Don’t say something you will regret in the heat of the moment. And most of all remember to be a bottomless well. Give and keep on giving. They’ll appreciate it and even if they don’t it’s okay because someone WILL notice one day and you will reap all you sowed.
best regards
mindlessmidnightmemories