Hey abled people
Don't offer to assist someone just to be polite
You don't get to offer to push me and then turn around and complain when I accept, or push me for like a minute and then give up while complaining.
I get if you didn't realize how heavy it is or that you might not be strong enough, just say that and apologize. And then STOP PUSHING ME. Don't continue while bitching and making me feel bad.
If you bitch at me it's only going to make me feel worse and everyone around us is going to be mad at ME for "taking advantage of you"
Usually I will only ask for help when I am at my limit, or when I'm around a group of friends I trust, so they can switch off if they get tired. When I need to get up a hill and no one is there to help I just get out and push. Until I get a power assist I still will need help from time to time.
Also in most cases, a stranger won't want or need your help unless they are in immediate need and usually then we will ask. It's very uncomfortable to have a stranger touch your chair.
You don't need to ask every wheelchair user if they need help. I think in some countries it's considered polite to ask but please..just stop if you can't back it up and actually help!!!