#mod abi

[incorrect-sanders-sides]

Hello! I’m Abi and I’m the new mod here on incorrect-sanders-sides!

A little about me:

My pronouns are she/they though that may be changing soon as I am experimenting with different pronoun combinations

My comfort character is Remus

I make art on my main account thatonelesbianfander, even though I kinda suck at drawing and get artist’s block almost all the time

I think that’s all. I’m so glad I’m able to do this, and hope to have fun meeting all of you!

[bnha-popzine]

How works the CD? Is like a download? Or is a physical CD

ok SO. Basically, we’ll be including a “CD” (yes it’s fake) with the physical zines, and they’ll have a QR code that you can scan. The code will lead you to a link where you can download the music.

It will look and work kind of like Stray Kids’ QR voice cards (this ain’t my picture it’s @/danielletrbl ‘s don’t sue me pls):

and hey look this picture is an example of a photocard trade or sale post!!!!1!!1!

- Mod Abi

[wlwadviceblog]

I have been having a lot of trouble dealing with a lot of repressed desire. I used to dismiss my sexual attention to woman as jealousy or say “all girls think other girls are pretty” but I know now that’s not the case. I feel TERRIBLE objectifying woman in my head, but I feel attracted to so many of them and I don’t want to come across as creepy. I feel no romantic attention to them, I just got out of a very long relationship, but I am very frustrated and I don’t know what to do. Please help.

Just because you expirence attraction to women, even if it’s sexual attraction, doesn’t mean that you are objectifying them. Remember that the only way to objectify women is to treat them like an object rather than a human being.

~mod Abi

[wlwadviceblog]

hi! im 17 and i used to think i was a bisexual woman. i have a boyfriend, but im constantly daydreaming of girls and im literally not attracted to any other boy but my boyfriend, and im uncomfortable and disgusted everytime he sends me a nude. how could i know if im actually bi but a little sexually confused or if im a lesbian with internalized bs? :( ly guys, hope you have a good day

I’m going to be honest, because I don’t know you anon it’s hard to just tell you your sexuality so I’d suggest that you do some self reflection but just based off of what you’re telling us it sounds like you might be a lesbian. Again I don’t want to tell you your own sexuality because only you can determine that.

~mod Abi

[bnha-popzine]

Why is no bundle with all the prints?

Hi Anon,

I’m not too sure whether you’re referring to the prints or photocards, but whatever it is here’s an answer:

Prints: There’s a total of 2 prints (excluding stretch goal prints) and you can purchase them both in the WIOTY bundle and Fanship Kit! (The signed prints are a stretch goal and if we reach it, you’d receive a total of 4 prints when you purchase the WIOTY bundle.)

Photocards: Like Mod Jo mentioned, we want to stay as close as possible to the feel of buying real kpop albums. For those unfamiliar with what we mean, kpop albums often (if not always) come with a randomized photocard of one of the group’s members. The only way to obtain all cards is to a) purchase multiple albums and hope you don’t pull the same member each time, or b) purchase the cards you’re missing from someone who also bought the album and is selling their photocard. Trading photocards to get the member/version you want is also big (hence my joke a few days ago). ANywAy I could ramble on about this topic so I’ll stop here (example yt video where they’ve purchased multiple of the same album) 

If you’re still confused, shoot us another ask! I hope I helped though...

- Mod Abi

[wlwadviceblog]

ive been obsessing and stressing over whether i'm bi or a lesbian and i'm getting so tired of it. i don't know how to let go. i analyze every interaction i have with a man or a woman and ask myself "what does this mean?" and that makes it so i dont even know how genuine my reactions are. i get nervous around men sometimes but i dont know if its attraction or if its because i dont like them?? i've been depressed too and its been causing a lot of confusion. any advice?

I suppose you need to understand that a label isn’t actually necessary, i went without one for a long time, and that your attraction to people shouldn’t dirty or uncomfortable. Figuring out your sexuality is hard and I can’t actually tell you what it is but try not to focus on it too much, your sexuality doesn’t have to be a main focus within your life. 

~mod abi

[wlwadviceblog]

On your “hairstyle for butches” thingy list, I can for sure also recommend the first one (tapered and long). My first and current short hairstyle is like this, and I love it! I was scared to get something that looked bad/was a flop of hair, and this was a pleasant surprise. I got it a little shorter on the sides and kept it longer on the top, and it ended up being fluffy and light and great for summer. Thanks for recommending it to other people! 😁

No problem! I also cut my hair like that recently so I guess we’re hair cut buds now.

~mod Abi

[wlwadviceblog]

i trust yall and wanted to know your opinion. is it weird to have feelings for an internet friend? we've been friends for a year and a half and i kind of feel butterflies in my stomach when i talk to her, and shes so damn pretty. i love her personality, i trust her and feel safe when i talk to her. but is it weird to have a crush on someone who lives far away and ive never met before? or am i just lonely irl :(

It’s completely normal to have a crush on an internet friend! In fact I’d probably argue that a majority of people in this generation will probably get one at some point or another. You’re not weird or lonely, just experiencing a crush with less than ideal circumstances.

~mod abi