#mod kace

[pre-t-advice]

Hey y’all

Sorry I haven’t been around all that much. I actually just found out that I could start T if I wanted to, but I am not out, so it is causing my depression to act up and my dysphoria has been bad, so it has been hard for me to be around as I just want to curl up in a burrito and ignore the world.

[askanonbinary]

Hey, what’s your opinion on trans tape? It’s similar to ace bandages but supposedly not as harmful as bandages, and more effective than a binder. My friend is obsessed with passing as masc, and wants to buy it but Im extremely worried about his health, he’s also trying to exercise in a binder without going up a size. How do I convince him to bind safely? (And is the tape safe?) thx

Hello!So, there isn’t much research out there about taping for binding. I just know that it stretches your skin so it might not be very comfortable. I still would just recommend a binder instead of the tape, but that is my opinion, since there is more information on binders than the tape. You can tell him that the binder restricts his chest and while you are moving, you need to be able to breathe properly. He can cause damage to his lungs then he would not be able to bind anymore because of how bad his lungs will end up. So, I would tell him that he needs to go a size, or he will ruin his chance to bind. Also, he could end up hurting his ribs and ruin his chance of getting top surgery if he is not careful. So, I would be a good friend and explain all of that to him. I would be worried about him as well because binding can become really dangerous. I have asthma, so I cannot bind all of the time, so not being able to breathe sucks. But I rather be able to breathe, then ruin my chances of top surgery or ruin my lungs even more than what they already are. Good luck!- Mod Kace

[pre-t-advice]

Emailing update!

So I actually emailed all of my new professors for the fall (just changed my major... Again.) And they were all accepting. One even told me to come to her if I ever feel unsafe or need someone to talk to.

For those who are struggling with coming out in high school or college, it may be hard, but even doing the littlest things like emailing your professor your name and pronouns is a good place to start. They all replied with Hi Kace! which is always an amazing feeling.

If anyone of you need help with how to email a professor or teacher, just hit me up here or at my personal blog @justasemistable-boy

Hope you all are staying safe and having a good rest of your summer.

- Mod Kace

[askanonbinary]

hey, im a non binary afab. i have heavy body dysphoria, but at the same time i have an extreme fear of letting myself go through surgery to make my body gender neutral. if i decide i can't go through surgery and try to accept my body the way it is, does that make my identity any less valid?

Nope! Everyone transitions differently. You are still valid.

- Mod Kace

[askanonbinary]

Is it okay for me to identify as agender even though I prefer to be called by feminine-gendered titles like woman, girl, miss, daughter and the like than the gender neutral ones like person, sibling, child etc.? I feel like I'm 100% agender but I'm uncomfortable when people say "neither man nor woman" about me; I prefer "not a man, not necessarily a woman". I've tried demigirl and nanogirl before, but I'm just not satisfied by those terms...

Yes.

Terms don’t have a gender. You can be agender and go by those terms. It will not make you any less agender. You are still valid and you do what you can be to comfortable with yourself.

- Mod Kace

[askanonbinary]

Hey im non binary and im so upset and lost. My dysphoria is so bad that i barely ever want to go anywhere because my agab is very clear i cant bear the thought of every stranger seeing me that way. I like my body much of the time, but the way it leads other people to percieve me makes me extremely upset. Im sorry for the long ask but I really needed to get that off my chest.

Hey there!

Stay strong, pal. I feel the same way sometimes. Just keep your head up. You are you and don’t let others get to you.

~ Mod Kace

[askanonbinary]

What I meant to say about gender expression and gender identity was how do I know if I am feeling a certain gender or if I just want to express that way? Or can it be that I want to express that way because I feel that way?

Hello there, Gender expression is just how you like to dress or express yourself. Your expression can be different from the gender that you identify as. We cannot tell you what your gender is, so that is something you will need to figure out on your own. I am a non-binary boy that is in the closet and sometimes I have to dress feminine because of family, so that expression does not match how I identify. So, if you like expressing yourself as more masculine, you do not have to match the masculine gender identities, because some women out there like to express more on the masculine side. So, this is something that you should look more into. - Mod Kace

[askanonbinary]

I know this is kinda random and I apologize if this has already been answered or something. I was born a female, but I've always disliked being girly, ESPECIALLY when it's traditionally girly stuff. I've always hated my breasts, and I would legitimately not mind if I didn't have. Would this be considered cis type stuff or is this not usual cis behavior/thoughts? I dunno just agh. Again, I apologize if this has already been asked or something. Thank you for your time! -PA (pseudonym)

You can be a girl and not like your chest. I know some butch girls that bind their chest because they don’t like having their chest.

But not wanting to be girly doesn’t mean that you are a different gender. You can be whoever you want to be. If you feel like you don’t identify as a girl, then there are a lot of other identities that you can look into.

Gender expressions and actions do not always go with gender identity.

- Mod Kace