All of the lovely asks for...Tony?
ooh Tony👀 I haven't talked about him in a hot minute❤️ I love my Cuban drug lord. Thank you for asking, Anaya, I hope you're doing well and staying safe out there. Sending you all my love💌 this took a while to do lol but it was so fun!
the bandana look is growing on me. I am obsessed.
🤗What does it feels like to be in your f/o´s arms (or to hold them in your arms)? Does it make you feel safe? Loved? Please describe.
In Tony’s arms is one of the safest places I can be. No one is going to try to harm me if he’s around; if Tony is there, I’ve got nothing to worry about. He has a bit of trouble with expressing intimacy and sensitivity due to his upbringing, so a lot of the time I have to initiate it, but he eases himself in quite well for someone of his type.
I cannot speak for how it makes him feel whenever I hold him, both because of how infrequently it happens and because I am well aware that Tony will not acknowledge anything within himself that could be perspectively viewed as a “weakness”. However, I do know that he gets a big smile on his face when I pull him close; whenever I start to rub his back, he presses in closer, tighter.
👫Do you and your f/o like to go on walks together? And if so, do you like to hold hands while doing so?
Let me be honest: Tony doesn’t love going for walks. He goes with me because he likes to make me happy and it gives him a chance to spend some time alone with me. He prefers to go walking along the beach at night because late at night is the only time the weather is semi-comfortable and suitable to go for walks in Miami.
We do hold hands; if we’re alone (which is typical for us during these times) Tony likes to find secluded spaces so that we can slip away into the dark and kiss.
💕How do the two of you usually cuddle?
We do cuddle, Tony insists on it, but we have our various sleeping differences so it never lasts the whole night. Tony curls up on his side with his back to me once we fall asleep. He gets really hot when he sleeps and on nights when he’s not in the best mood, he’ll complain about how many blankets I’ve got on the bed; I can’t sleep without them, but he sometimes gets too hot and can’t stand it. When we do cuddle, he likes for me to lay on his chest or he’ll want to spoon me. How we cuddle is normally his preference, but he does like to let me just snuggle against him however I want.
💘Do you remember the exact moment you fell in love with them? Tell us about it.
Tony & I had a bit of a strange meeting; we officially got together on April 1, 2022, but we’ve known of each other for...years prior but didn’t meet/start dating until this year. I don't remember the exact moment I fell in love with him, but I do remember one specific night that we stayed awake until 2-3am talking and I've not had a moment like that with anyone in years. I guess I knew what we have is real after experiencing that night with him.
💐Do you and your f/o like to give each other flowers? If so, are you only doing it for special occasions (birthdays, Valentine´s day etc), or are you also doing it spontanous whenever you feel like it?
Tony is very spontaneous, so I can expect that if he chooses to buy my flowers, it’ll most likely be at random. If a certain bouquet catches his eye, he’ll buy it for me regardless of whether or not it’s a special occasion. I know he’ll buy them for valentine’s day and my birthday anyway, but Tony is all about giving gifts year-round. I like to get red roses for him and put them in his office as a decoration. Sometimes he lets me cut one down to size so that I can pin it on his suit.
😘How does your f/o kiss (soft, passionate etc)? Also, how often do you kiss?
Most of the time, Tony’s kisses are scorching, exuberantly passionate, hot-blooded and possessive.
But if he’s feeling more clingy or sentimental and wants to be gentler, his kisses are full-lipped, warm, amorous and deeply appreciative of the love we share.
When Tony kisses me, it is almost always bruising, hungry, bold, eager and overpowering; he loves to have the upper hand, gaining dominance over my mouth.
We kiss often, even if it's merely a peck on the lips to show affection for the other.
💌Does your f/o sometimes writes you love letters or leaves cute little messages for you? What´s about you?
Tony doesn’t write me letters very often. Sometimes he scrawls on post-it notes and sticks them in places where he knows I’ll find them. He draws funny faces on them to make me laugh.
I am the one who writes him lengthy love notes and leaves them on his pillow or in his office for him to read when he’s alone. He loves this because I often tuck little presents inside, like more polaroids, pressed flowers from bouquets he’s bought me, lipstick prints, spritzes of perfumes he’s bought me, etc. He keeps every note I write to him in a little lockbox inside one of his desk drawers. Tony has a problem with paranoia and doesn’t even trust his inner circle not to go through his things.
🐭What pet names do you have for each other? Or do you prefer to simply call each other by their name?
disclaimer: forgive me, I am not bilingual nor do I have any extensive knowledge on the variations/usage of cuban spanish; if the spanish nicknames are wrong, I apologize.
his for me: tigress, cariño, chica, baby (most used).
mine for him: I don't call him much in the way of nicknames; I mostly refer to Tony by name. I only use his full name, Antonio, on the rarest occasions because Tony is just easier & is what he most often goes by. I call him baby, but he prefers to refer only to me by that nickname.
🥰How affectionate is your f/o? How affectionate are you?
Tony is really affectionate, but it depends on his mood. If he’s in a good and playful mood, he will give lots of hugs that are long, full-bodied, bearlike and affectionate.
If another man looks my way for too long, he becomes less affectionate and more protective, keeping an arm around my shoulders or waist. He doesn’t love PDA unless he has to in order to deter unwanted advances from other men, so he is not too terribly affectionate in public, except for letting me hold onto his arm, opening doors for me (not really affection but more of a kind gesture) or a few quick pecks on the lips.
If we’re alone, really alone, and he’s feeling needy for intimacy or connection, he might rest his chin on my shoulder as he hugs me, amongst other things.
🎂Who´s more likely to bake a cake for the other one´s birthday? Also, who´s more skilled when it comes to this?
me! I love to bake and am happy to bake Tony all kinds of different desserts, even cake. Tony isn’t picky; he’ll eat any sweets I make and he loves how often I make treats for him. Tony isn’t much of a baker, but sometimes he likes to hang around the kitchen if I’m baking because occasionally I’ll give him little snacks throughout the process. He loves to eat! Tony really likes fruit-flavored desserts/cakes. He’ll eat anything lemon-flavored and he also loves pineapple upside down cake.
🎁Does your f/o sometimes surprises you with little gifts and vice versa?
yes! FinDom is a large part of our lifestyle, thanks to Tony.
FinDom or Financial Domination is the fetish/fantasy/lifestyle act of one person being submissive with their finances (giving money) and the other person taking or demanding finances(receiving money).
Since Tony has unlimited funds, he likes to spend as much of it as he can on me. I don't love taking money from anyone, but it’s a big deal to Tony that I spend the money he gives me and keep the gifts he gives. He buys me dresses, jewelry, perfume, makeup, purses, etc. He’s tried to buy me a car, but I made him take it back.
Since Tony has so much money, buying him gifts seems cheap, so I make him things instead. I write poems for him, paint pictures, etc. and he loves it; he keeps everything I make for him. one of the things he prefers to receive from me are polaroids I’ve taken of myself that I leave for him to look at and keep with him.
⛺Do you guys like to go camping together? Why or why not?
No. Tony is not an outdoorsman whatsoever, even though he is used to roughing it in some regards. He knows how to make do with very little, but camping takes his mind back to Cuba in certain respects and it’s difficult for him to think about his home country without fury setting in over the communist state of that nation.
Camping does not interest either of us; perhaps it would have been more his style before the lifestyle change, but not now. He is too busy to take time away. Also, Tony doesn’t do anything he doesn’t want to.
🎫Gush pass! Feel free to gush about your f/o as much as you want.
Tony, Tony, Tony...
He’s been a f/o for 3 months already (that cannot be right) and it still feels strangely disrespectful to talk about him, as though I cannot bring justice to the type of person that he is and convey all of the components and different aspects of his big personality. He is not the sort of person I find myself in search of; I don’t know what it was that made me fall for someone so different from myself, but I think that is just it. He is so far removed from myself that I’m exploring aspects of him that are replicated, albeit much gentler, in me.
I also seek out the protective types on purpose. Tony wouldn’t hesitate to destroy the entire world if it meant keeping me out of harm’s way and that has its leverage with me/my heart, I’ll tell you.
It’s so difficult for me to gush properly because I don’t like expressing all of the mushy stuff, but I love Tony and he took all my money. He is incredibly special to me and I cannot thank him enough for reminding me I have a voice and that I don’t have to take shit from anyone. I’m a sweet person until you discover the side of me that cusses like I’m Tony Montana...
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