im sorry i couldn't be who you wanted me to be. you expected so much of me. expected me to shrug off my disabilities and just function 'normally'. you believed him to be the cause of my transgenderism. you treated my brother worse cause you believed him to be copying me. little do you understand he is the reason i spoke at all. Wolf and S gave me the courage to be myself. you never did. you wanted me to be your daughter. and i was, for a little while. until puberty grabbed me. and i started changing. do you know how terrifying that is. to grow up and realize your body is wrong. but you didn't believe me. you pretended to. but you never called me your son. you called me my name to my face. but called me my deadname to others. you spread lies and tried to breach privacy. you never believed me to be ill. and when you did. believed it to be fixable. but you didn't know i was meant to be broken. i'm 20 now and i don't need you anymore. but that didn't mean you were allowed to go. i will never get my closure. i will never get to prove you wrong. fuck you mom. for making me love you. i remember when i was small and i would cling to you when scared. were you always hiding that gentle nature or did the alcohol consume it all. i don't know if you ever loved me. and not who i was pretending to be. i'm unraveling now. thinking of not being enough. i'm mad at you for passing away. i miss you but i hate you but i love you. i wish i could scrub the influence you had on me away. i'm sorry mama. i'm not your daughter anymore. i am your son now. i will always be your son. i reject the name you gave me and choose my own. and i will regret not saying this to you in person when i had the chance. and if i ever see you in the next life you will see me. and you better not have turned Jaco, Merel, Oma Riet, Oma Annie en Opa Jan against me. better not have told lies. i know i'm a disappointment to whet you wanted. but i hope if you ever loved me for me. you will accept me. this is my lament. goodbye Mama



















