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[mostlyzenwrites]

What I Mean By Empath

So....

You know those posts/memes "Don't XXXX, I'm an Empath"??

Yeah, that's me.

And I'm deadass serious about it, but not in the way that you think.

Everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY, has an inherent and built in ability to empathize with the people around them...AND it is more sensitive in some than others because we're not all the same.

It's both UNIVERSAL and UNIQUE.

Much like your fingerprints.

Conditioning, different nurture/home situations, and neurodiversity are some of the many reasons why that built-in operation doesn't work the same for everyone.

Here's the good news...it is something that can be repaired. Our brains and bodies are magnificent machines, but they are primarily concerned with energy efficiency and routine. You have to CHOOSE to reprogram it for a different way, it's not just going to magically happen to you.

Embracing your empathic nature can be scary. When we recognize that WE have the capacity to do or be different we also recognize that we are not bystanders to our lived experience.

We have the power to shape the world around us...for the better OR the worse, depending on your world view.

Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.

[mostlyzentx]

Empath Part 2: Why Am I Posting This?

So when I say "I'm an empath" I actually mean it...but after YEARS of mindfulness practice, meditation, and some therapy...I do not see it as a negative thing.

I do not go empath-ing all over the place like it's uncontrollable. I've learned to contain myself and not let it take over.

That being said....I have an acute sense for bullshit and apathy. Even over text/messages....I can tell when someone is just going through the motions and is not actually interested in connection.

And, while it might make me sad, I cut and run.

I am not a toy to be played with, nor am I like most of the other "doms" on this site. I'm not interested in play-acting a relationship (don't confuse with roleplay 😏).

I am a highly sensitive, mature, wise, experienced man who has a lot to offer. Does that sound conceited? I hope not. I just know my value...just like I would hope that every single one of you know YOUR value!

/endrant

BTW....this is not actually because of any specific issue before I get a message "what's wrong?"...just something I felt needed to be said.