#my triggers

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

I'd like to reiterate my last reblogs with my own post. If I click on your bio (which I tend to do with new followers) and I immediately see a personal bio or carrd with a dni list, even a single trigger, a single personal trauma story, a request to be sensitive, a list of headmates and their roles, what you do after school, how you feel about yourself, etc. etc.

If you're a minor specifically and you list even a single mental illness or neurodivergence

I assure you that I immediately recognize that I have been given power over you.

This isn't a joke, and it's not me being a weirdo who doesn't mind her own business. You are giving it to me. My immediate thought is of how vulnerable I would be if everyone who saw me suddenly knew all of this about me. I get a heck of a lot of affective empathy and it shakes me to see.

It makes me very uncomfortable to know that I have power over someone. Emotionally. Especially someone I don't know. Especially a kid.

But there are people who revel in it.

Let me repeat this: If you follow me and you have a personal carrd that says anything more than your pseudonym(s) and relevant topics you post about, I have power over you. I could hurt you. Are you okay with that? Because I'm not.

[idrinkcoffeforyourprotection]

To everyone who talk when I’m panicking;

The voices in my head are loud enough, so you need to shut the FUCK up.

[as-the-stars-foretold]

figured it was about time I made a list of my triggers, considering how... specific they are

If you could tag these as #nyx dont look or #cae dont look I'd really appreciate it

Cancer, diabetes, disease in general, ect.

Brain eating amoeba

Talks of nirvana and spritual realization

Chain messages

people insisting things even after i've told them otherwise/asked them to stop 

constantly bringing trauma up in any/all situations, especially situations that are lighthearted (jokes are fine though, like “yeah my trauma made me funny” and stuff)

Again, I'd just really appreciate if you could tag these

[lunaamadasjourney]

Hello I am Luna,

I am new to this community and excited to share my journey with you. You, whoever you are reading this. I am dedicating this space to the raw sometimes ugly truth my life can be. I intend to perhaps help someone learn from my experiences. To share the wisdom that is learned walking through the storms of life.

A little bit of my story and what you will find here.

I am a survivor of sexual abuse as a child. My struggles are PTSD, HSP, anxiety, and depression. On the Enneagram scale, I am a 9 with an 8 wing. Look this up if you don't know what it is. I promise it will be worth your time. This description is merely words, which don't convey the reality and the impact abuse can have on an individual. In this space intend to share all my truths raw, scary, authentic.

[clowning-lessons]

My Full DNI:

wlw who say the f slur/think they can reclaim the f slur (i respect my wlw sisters but it isn't your word and non mlm saying it is lowkey homophobic)

disrespectful trumeds (if you're polite and don't bully people i don't mind)

terfs

transphobes in general

phobic of anything in the lgbtqa+ acronym

extreme exclusionists

cishets because this blog is for lgbtqa+ people specifically

if your name is ceri, kevin, or theresa

if you think terf rhetoric doesn't hurt trans men/think trans men have it easier

think pansexuality is transphobic

are gonna be a dick

won't respect my triggers

speaking of my triggers, here is a list of them:

the names ceri, kevin, and theresa

yelling

physical abuse

sexual abuse

extreme transphobia

needles and blood tests

vomiting

humming

getting stalked

r*pe

violence against animals

mental hospitals

that's all for now!

[ithadtobethemoon]

I know how to have healthy relationships but I can never follow through bc my trauma always peaks through. I feel like I'm damaged forever. I feel like I'm doomed to ruin all my relationships no matter how much I try.

[nona-gay-simus]

List of Triggers

Note: This post is meant for myself and original works I plan to critique/beta read, not to pass judgement on anyone’s writing. 

Things might be added later.

Triggers I will NOT read about:

Gratuitous Sexual Assault (aka described in unnecessary detail OR works where a lot of women get r*ped for “realism”)

Teacher/Student relationships or teacher/student kink (it might be fine if’s presented as a bad thing or if the kink is just a joke)

Any kind of age play kink

Anything that romanticises abuse, especially emotional abuse

Triggers I will read about, If I am warned:

Animal torture/death

Bigotry (not romanticised)

Tropes I don’t fuck with

(Aka not triggering, but I won’t read it):

Plots or major subplots that revolve around vilifying sex workers

Romances that revolve around sex trafficking (especially if the love interests saves the woman from sex trafficking)

Weird/Creepy Power Dynamics in Romance (or a romantic subplot)

Sexist Love Interests