#narcisist

[notas-tontas]

Odio tanto a mi papá... odio que me confunda tanto aunque ya sé que nunca va a cambiar.

Odio que mi mamá tenga que soportar tanto por nuestro bien.

Odio ser una inútil incapaz de hacer algo para cambiar nuestra situación.

[beenthereregrettedthat]

[zahra-rose]

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[mckenya25]

In an attempt to constantly define myself, I created my personal aesthetic - Neon Academia.

-mg

[firefliesinaugust]

Don’t let them lie to you. Don’t let them tell you differently than what you know or act differently. If you can’t control their gaslighting, control your inner thoughts. Correct them in your mind, but DO NOT believe their lies. Do NOT let them confuse your reality. Do NOT let them normalize their wrong doings.

A narcissist will never or hardly ever admit where they did wrong. They perpetually do wrong. They refuse to see, they refuse to hear or listen. That is why none of the pain can be resolved WITH THEM. It’s resolved OUTSIDE AND AWAY from them. It’s resolved within you. As much as you can do it for yourself inside, the outside matters too. What you are around matters too. You can’t suppress your feelings without suppressing yourself.

If you are going through any type of narcissistic abuse, I love you. I’m here for you. You aren’t alone. Don’t give up on you.

[oillampslit]

To everyone who deals with manipulators and liars, do not worry the truth will come out one day!

To everyone who deals with manipulators and liars, do not worry the truth will come out one day!

[beautifulbizarremagazine]

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[ablednt]

Alright to be more concise about the post I was trying to make

My mom is what people would consider a "narcissistic abuser" but she doesn't have npd that I am aware of in fact she spends the majority of her time lashing out at people with personality disorders such as npd and bpd in the education and criminal psychology fields. She labels every one she doesn't like as an npd/bpd abuser too. The words have no weight, all they do is hurt vulnerable people.

But the thing is, even if it turned out my mother was a narcissist, that still wouldn't have been even remotely why she abused me. And here is how I know that.

My abusive father has adhd and probably undiagnosed autism, which I know bc I have both of those things as well. Now, before you say that it isn't the same bc autistic/adhd traits don't contribute to abuse:

-He compared all of my interests and hobbies to his SI which he spent hundreds of dollars of our (very limited) money on, made me take part in even though I hated it, and in that comparison he said everything I ever did and liked was cringe bc it wasn't his SI.

-His getting distracted easily, hyperfocus, and executive dysfunction directly contributed to his neglect on me and criticism of me for having the same problems which led to the worst self esteem and mental health lows I've ever had

-his poor emotional regulation caused him to lash out at me

-and because he'd been ostracized and bullied growing up for his autistic traits he believed that friendship and relationships were all faked and when I started to make friends as a kid this threatened that notion so he began to intentionally sabotage my friendships while telling me no one but my family would ever love me

This is just a small part of the things he did but even with this, I do not for a moment think that he's an "autistic abuser" because I'm an autistic ADHDer and I taught myself to unlearn those toxic behaviors before I even knew I was ND.

Abusers are that way because they want to be. No mental illness or disorder makes someone abusive, and if your abuser was neurotypical and abled they would still have abused you. There's a million ways to discuss the effects of abuse without demeaning entire communities (who are primarily abuse survivors themselves I might add).

In using ableist terms you are only lashing at others for your abuse. Do better or get out.

[Ok to rb but anyone who tries to hate on npd in the comments/responses is promptly going to be added to a blocklist for their bigotry.]