i’m not saying don’t work through your trauma. i’m saying don’t flaunt child pornography and hide behind saying ‘it’s okay, i’m working through trauma’ as if that means you’re free of critique. it doesn’t make you suddenly safe from knowing you’re publicly contributing to something that hurts people like it’s hurt you.
the internet isn’t a void - what you do affects people, and that includes writing things that ‘help’ you. what ‘helps’ you, traumatises someone else. i can’t comment on what people do in their personal lives - that’s none of my business - but when people think it’s completely okay to release written and drawn child porn into the world and then when it’s questioned they reply ‘it’s okay i went through it so i’m allowed’ i mean. that’s literally what this person did and of course no one said ‘well that’s too fucking bad, you have to just suffer!’ because we’re not monsters. we didn’t want her to suffer, she was our friend. we cared for her. we were just bad people for suggesting maybe she shouldn’t celebrate it *as much as she did* because she had a large young following and seeing shit like that changes how people see things. especially young people
i can’t show you the context of what i’m talking about as it was years ago, but when the aforementioned person is gleefully having ‘late night child porn’ ask requests, some being like ‘imagine a 6 year old being bought into a family and then being passed around’ and them replying with things like ‘ooooomfggg 😍😍😍 so sexy, tell me more’ well, i’m kinda allowed as a person who lives and breathes to think maybe there’s a better way to work through something. but i can be wrong, and that’s okay. it’s obviously a subject that has a lot of nuance and i let that post get under my skin and i replied very harshly and completely considering just my experience, so i’m sorry for that. i know these situations aren’t always like that. people writing about getting back at their abusers? all the power to them!!
the person i mentioned did say she was using it to cope with past trauma. and we all understood that, but to then share it lovingly on the internet, excitedly, and know full well you’re personally contributing to an incredibly large problem, one that personally affected you? not on in my books. and i’m not interested in being told ‘i make people feel worse’ as if that’s going to stop me having an opinion on this
i just know we have a child porn epidemic and i resent being told i’m doing ‘peformance art’ by speaking out about it
thank you for talking to me about it, i’m not used to talking like this about things and i’m def interested in how people feel about it, i also like sharing how i feel about it, i just need to make sure next time i am more mature about it. that post touched a nerve!! i’m sorry again
