People think rejection is painful. But rejection has a body , it shows you exactly where you need to stand. Rejection means the road is closed / do not trespass. Rejection has a shape that tells you it is not your size. But what’s painful is being ignored or “ghosted”. Because this does not speak , it has no sound , no noise - it’s a dead end but you have no idea if it is concluded or just a temporary mirage that you’re stranded somewhere with no other sign because it is foggy & misty. You do not exist that your value & worth were stripped from you & you are naked , unseen , invisible , erased in an open vast space to which anything can harm you or save you. So rejection is where it is a clear indication to steer away while when being ignored is where your titanic heart will soon be pierced by the iceberg of such cruelty - (what I meant by this wickedness is when you are talking to someone then you ignore them without addressing nor give a reason why the communication suddenly dried up but the next time you see them again you acted like nothing had happened thus not only you have put them in a place of being invisible but also invalidates the motive behind why were they even treated as a phantom in the first place - ) & the sad part is or more so a barbaric part is when you are well aware that you are ignoring someone & the repercussion to that act is based on your selfishness instead of an actual self-care. Know the difference. For ignoring someone based on selfishness is when you do not communicate your intention to end things fairly or that things can no longer be fixed that the only way out is to go your own separate ways for the sake of each other’s wellbeing & not just expect the other person to mind read your intention since you’re also continuously giving them a mixed signal that you still want to work things out — on the other hand if you’re ignoring someone based on self-care is simply by having to relay many different options & giving chances to whatever the form of relationship that you’re having with the other person & they are still not willing to meet you half way or respect your decision & boundaries thus it’s necessary to execute the ignore mode since that seems to be your only way out to keep your peace— at the end of the day remember how you wanted to be treated when you act in a selfish ignorant mode to a self care one. Because the consequences of it can be damaging to their mental , emotional , psychological , physical & spiritual well being mostly to the ones you were selfishly intended or even unintended to ignore. We always make our own bed whether we consciously or subconsciously aware or not & we will have to lay on it eventually -
D C de Oliveira | From: Hēsychazō, Surdus| January 15, 2023 | Sunday, 4am
