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[womenwithoutchildren]

Sorry, not sorry :))

[4non-moms]

Who decided it was moms vs non-moms?

Who decided it was moms vs non-moms?

There are some things that just get my ire.  People who speak for all, are self-important, and build themselves up by putting others down are just a few items that make me irate.  Oddly enough, I found all of the above in an article about what non-moms should know!

I choose to respond to the author of this article in particular not only because of what she said, but how.  Now, I understand…

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[nokiddding]

You can do that when you don’t have kids

I travel. A lot. Last year I took over 30 flights, visiting 20+ cities and 3 different countries. That doesn’t include road trips.

Growing up in a small town, I knew there was more out there. Each year we took small family trips to places like Hershey Park, the Jersey Shore, and the Adirondacks. They weren’t fancy trips but the goal was to explore places we had never been.

I was hooked.

I’m not going to get into the merits of travel or the benefits it has on individuals and the world as a whole - there are plenty of blogs out there for that. For me however, travel has always been something I’ve loved doing and in turn, something I’ve made a priority in my life.

Not everyone sees it that way. People see my travels and tell me how lucky I am. Yes, I am certainly lucky. I never go a single day without realizing how fortunate I am to live the life I have. But simply travelling doesn’t make me lucky.

Yesterday at work, I was talking about how I am looking forward to spending my summer doing some travelling. The response I received – that must be nice.

You know what? It is nice!

I have chosen to create a life for myself that lets me travel. I have chosen to create a life for myself where I am responsible for me. I have also chosen to surround myself with people who can do the same. It sure is nice.

Now, to be fair, that person wasn’t trying to be a jerk. They have a family and just taking off to Australia for two weeks isn’t feasible. That however is the life they chose.

My response?

You can do that when you don’t have kids.

[blastoffbabies]

Date night! #nochildren #wearechildren (at Babe's Brewhouse & Bbq)

[womenwithoutchildren]

[womenwithoutchildren]

Just into these kind of babies 😎

[4non-moms]

Downtown Shenanigans. #4nonmoms #dink #dinklife #dinks #dinklifestyle #nochildren (at Carroll Creek) https://www.instagram.com/p/BsZWy3jH9e-/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1tt31p71j1c92

[nokiddding]

You get one.

“Are you going? I don’t have an excuse, I just don’t want to go.”

Oh, the joys of a baby shower. We eat some food, play a game or two, and watch you open countless presents that all start to look the same after a while. Yes, that dress is cute. So were the 10 others you already opened.

Look, I will always support my friends. I will come to your engagement party and your wedding shower. I will travel across the country for your wedding and when you announce you’re having your first baby, I will be at that shower too. I’ll buy you that dress and play those stupid games. And when you have that baby, I will be one of the first people to visit and your kids will know who I am.

But do you know what I will not do? I will not attend your second baby shower. You do not get a second baby shower.

A few weeks ago, a friend texted to ask if I was going to attend the “sprinkle” for another of our friends. Yes, a sprinkle. A smaller party that isn’t quite the same thing as a shower but in this case, still included a full registry and a half of my Saturday. Um…what?

I RSVP’d no. I didn’t make an excuse and I will not be sending a present. When the baby is born, I will come visit. I will bring her a present and I will bring you wine. Because that is how it works after baby number one.

Does that make me a bad friend? I don’t think so. As I’ve gotten older, I have stopped feeling bad about saying no to these. We have limited time in our weeks and we have to choose what matters to us.

Your second baby shower is not one of them.