#nonbinary rant

[wwwebwasteland]

A quick rant I would like to share, idk if there are any Undertale/Deltarune fans here (I'm sure there's plenty) but- both games have protagonists that use they/them pronouns- Frisk and Chara in Undertale and Kris in Deltarune.

Now, still in the big 2025, I see A LOT of people who keep misgendering all three of them because "it's their headcanon" and "it's fine because they're meant to represent the player so we can project any gender we want!" when literally the entire point of both of these games is that YOU, THE PLAYER, is a seperate entity from these characters. This is especially highlighted in Deltarune as Kris rips out their soul (hence the player) MULTIPLE TIMES, EVEN ASSERTS THEMSELVES AS THEIR OWN PERSON, literally the whole point of the story is that Kris is their own person however is -for whatever reason- forced into being controlled by us, the player. And YET people STILL have the audacity to say "oh it's ok Kris' gender is up to our interpretation so I can just call them a dude if I want!" NO HAVE YOU EVEN PLAYED THE GAME?? AT ALL???? HELLO???????

Do we really just need Kris to walk up to screen, dead ass stare at us and say "I am Kris and I am nonbinary and I use they/them pronouns" with a huge nonbinary flag behind them for those people to maybe finally understand that Kris' gender is not up to their interpretation?

Obviously Frisk and Chara too- however it's just so much worse when Deltarune fans do this because Toby Fox couldn't make it any more obvious what his intentions are.

I'm just. Really fucking tired of people man.

[little-grey-dowitcher]

I should not have to be an educator on all things gender just to be treated as valid. Like holy fuck I should not have to answer the question of “are you a boy or a girl” with “neither, I’m nonbinary” five times in a row because apparently “that’s not a real answer”. I should not have to listen to unhinged rants about “basic biology” to get people to stop demanding to know what’s in my pants when I refuse to tell them. I should not have to thump the Bible back at someone spouting made-up bullshit about what it says about gender (it doesn’t say fucking anything about trans people, btw, but it sure does say a lot about shoving your religion down other people’s throats — funny how they never know those verses!). I should not have to go dig up articles about third genders and gender diversity in ancient cultures and trans research from 100 years ago just so people will stop acting like I’m hopping on some new trend!!! Holy fucking shit!!! I am literally just some person going about my day, minding my own business!!! If you can’t respect basic shit like my name and pronouns then leave me the fuck alone!!!!

[babybutchress]

it is 1am and i honestly do not know or care if this makes any sense or if i just sound like im rambling abt nothing because im just so frustrated and annoyed and need to vent

i wish people never started saying “nonbinary isn’t a gender” because that’s essentially saying “gay isn’t a sexuality”

they are both umbrella terms that could be a sexuality/gender on their own but could also mean a vast array of other things that fall under that umbrella.

nonbinary is as much of a gender to some and an umbrella for others as gay is a sexuality to some and an umbrella for others.

this oversimplified generalization that nonbinary isn’t a gender has caused more harm than good as it was basically used to drill into people that enbies all fall under diet man or diet woman categories. it has caused nonbinary as a gender category to be taken less seriously because the people using it were doing so to make the point that enbies can be gaylm/lesbian (which is true) but it’s had the consequence of now everyone mentally puts enbies in the mental category of “this nonbinary dates this women so that means they’re a nb sapphic which means i should treat them like a girl probably” which makes me so…. fududndndnf /neg

it also just makes people confused about what bisexuality is too because they categorize all nonbinary people under “man” and “woman” attraction even if they are nonbinary, causing many people who fall under the bi umbrella to get mislabeled as lesbians/gaylm because they’re attracted to multiple genders just excluding one of the binary genders because no one thinks being attracted to enbies “counts” as a separate gender category because everyone is mentally telling themselves “enbies aren’t separate from man and woman” when they tell themselves “nonbinary isn’t a gender”

i am nonbinary and that is my gender. it is not the only word i use to describe my gender but it is my gender category. i am not adjacent to man or womanhood. i can not be restricted to this masc/fem binary people keep trying to put me in to make their view of gender more simple. if i dont fit your binary then make a fucking trinary idc just include me without mentally putting me into a category that erases my gender identity. stop looking at me as a diet man/woman. stop telling me my gender isn’t my gender because you don’t want to consider my gender is outside the scope of the gender binary.

if you’re a nonbinary person who doesn’t view your personal nonbinariness like this then fine but stop forcing that on me cause now i need to live with the result of the push of “nonbinary isn’t a gender” mentality and it’s really not fun. it’s really invalidating and sucks that i’m never treated like my identity exists in the same way the binary genders get to.

[the-ghost-of-mr-dolphin]

Y’all guess what I’m having a gender crisis again and you’re about to hear about it.  so in a way I really couldn’t care less about what pronouns people use for me and how people perceive me, but because I was AFAB and I grew up with a lot of feminist influences I heavily identify with the struggles of women and feminine-identifying people. so for that reason I identify with being a woman and using she/her pronouns. But that’s like,,, the only reason. Other than that I feel very apathetic about gender and I couldn’t care less about what pronouns people used for me. So I kind of want to identify as agender or gender apathetic But I still want to be able to call myself a girl because I like being perceived as a “strong independant woman”. Thoughts? 

[imnotapandaiswear]

Dear boys: You are handsome as hell. It doesn't matter how tall you are, or strong, or how feminine or masculine you are, or what's in your pants. You are the kings and princes of the world, and don't let anyone say you aren't. And if you want, you can be a fucking princess or queen too. You are allowed to ask for help just like you are allowed to help others. You are allowed to cry, it's manly as Hell. Slay that eyeliner and dress if you please, or rock that suit. Do what makes you comfortable. Nothing makes you any less of a man. You are enough. Dear girls: You are gorgeous. You can be petite and wear dresses. You can be 6'4 and ripped in a tank top. You can rule the world, or play a small part, either way you are important. You are a princess and a queen, a prince and a king. Your emotions are serious, regardless if you are on your period or not. You can be nice as you please, or you can live without a care in the world. You can shave your body, or let the hair grow. You can have a small or big chest, you can have a beard, and it doesn't matter if what's in your pants isn't what is expected. Rock that body. Do with it what you please. Nothing makes you less of a woman. You are enough. Dear nonbinary people: You are beautiful. If afab, you can bind or not, it's up to you. If amab, you can rock facial hair. You don't have to be androgynous, but you can if you want to. You are not just a 'special snowflake'. You are much more than your identity. You can color your hair and chop it all off, or you can leave it its natural color and let it grow as long as you please. Your body shape is perfect no matter how it looks or changes. You are the monarchs of the world, but you can call yourself a queen, king, prince or princess. You can use binary pronouns, or use ones that are incredibly obscure. You don't have to live up to anyone's expectations but your own. Nothing makes you less of a person. You are enough.

[non-binarybloke]

I am not a girl or a boy i simply exist.

[little-grey-dowitcher]

I hate when someone misgenders me and calls me a woman so I try to correct them but they don’t know what nonbinary means so I just have to tell them “I’m not a woman”. I hate being forced to define my identity by what it’s not. It feels so shitty and it doesn’t give any idea of what I actually am but how else am I supposed to explain it to someone who has never heard of nonbinaryhood? It just sucks and I wish there was more mainstream awareness about us so that I could at least have a jumping off point to talk about what I am instead of being forced to say what I’m not. Especially because it leads other people to define me by what I’m not as well and that sucks! But what I am doesn’t make any sense to cis people and I don’t wanna have to explain the complexity and nuance of my identity every five minutes so idk what else to do except define myself to others by what I’m not. Fuck.

[non-binarybloke]

It really sucks that my family would never accept me for who I am. I constantly have to hide myself around them and it's awful.