I sincerely don't even know why I have to say this.
If you're a conservative, unfollow me.
If you're transphobic, unfollow me.
If you're a bigot, unfollow me.
If you're "anti LGBTQ" - UNFOLLOW. ME.
Block me, too, so I don't accidentally interact with you.
I honestly cannot believe that in 2025, there are people still brazen enough to admit these things out loud on a public platform, much less on TUMBLR of all places.
My rights are being actively infringed on and stripped away with each day that passes in this hell hole. I come here, to Tumblr, to try and put something good and nice and fun into the world because fuck, there's only so much activism I can do in real life -- but I CAN make the art that represents my experience as a trans person, I CAN try to put hope and joy into the world in the ways I know how, just to make other queer people feel seen and wanted for a goddamn second, because I know a lot of them are suffering too. Many of them, especially trans women and ESPECIALLY if they are POC, are suffering in ways I can't even imagine.
I didn't post it, but I got hate anons after I called someone out for being blatantly transphobic in this community -- not hearsay, shit I saw with my own eyes -- and a lot of people blocked me, but I don't fucking care. If you're transphobic or you defend people who are, block me. I'm not here for you. My art isn't for you.
There are good people in this community who want to share what's on their heart and have their work seen. I'm here for them. I don't care if I get a lot of notes, I never have.
Expressing any kind of "political" opinion is harmful to an artist, either because they lose viewership or people just don't want to see the drama or stress, they just want the art. I get that, but I don't care if I lose the people who disagree with me on this, I would rather have them gone -- and the people who just don't want to read stressful stuff, I'm sorry, but please recognize I'm a real person and it is legit hard to not lose motivation when I am reminded there is hate festering, even in the places I come to feel better.
If you are not with me when it comes to my rights, then I'm sorry, but you are against me. There is no neutrality when it comes to our lives, and that is literally what's at stake when it comes to conservative policies.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but if you only respect people's boundaries when you personally agree with them, you shouldn't be allowed in any community that revolves around touching other people -- regardless of how non-sexual/sfw/non-kink/non-fetish your interest might be.
If you can't even respect someone's boundaries on their blog, why should anyone trust you with touching their body? Why should anyone feel safe touching yours?
Are you going to accept when someone you really like... doesn't want to tickle you?
Are you going to accept when you want to tickle someone really bad... but they don't like being tickled?
And, by the way -- acceptance means just that. Acceptance. That means not getting mopey, pissy, disappointed, or passive-aggressive toward the person with the boundary. It means going "oh, okay!" and you both move on. They feel heard. You feel glad they communicated their needs to you. That's the end of it.
It's easy to say "yeah, of course I would respect someone's boundaries" -- but when rubber meets road, are you going to prove that with your actions?
Being a safe person means that even when someone's boundaries don't make sense to you, or you really want to do something that goes against someone's boundaries, you still honor them and put them first. If you're not mature enough to understand this, you shouldn't be here at all.
I'm going to weigh in on this discourse between the SFW and NSFW community, but before I do, here's the long and short of it in terms of how it's going to affect you interacting with me.
If you are an adult who allows minors to interact with you, or you reblog from minors, please do not reblog anything from me. I don't want minors being led back here. I used to be lenient about this, but since I have started making actual NSFW content, I'm not anymore. Don't do it, please.
If you are an adult who is talking to minors about tickling or teasing them, please don't interact with me at all. I'm going to expand on this, but I don't think this is ever okay.
I have turned anonymous asks off and I will not be turning them back on. This is not because I was getting hate, it's simply because I don't want to risk minors sending me asks.
Like every discussion that gets rehashed over and over the way this one has, there is nuance. If you want my nuanced opinion, you can read it under the cut. However, there is one part of this discussion I want to state here, where people are most likely to see it:
I have seen people in this community make the argument that "minors need 'safe' adults in this community to talk to, so they know that liking tickling isn't weird." Emphatically... No they do not.
Minors should not believe that ANY adult online is safe, in the tickling community or otherwise. The people who will hurt them know how to behave like safe adults. They are not stupid. They won't show their true colors until they have already gotten the minor to trust them, and ideally, rely on them for something (teasing, emotional support, etc). That is how grooming actually happens. It is a process, and it doesn't happen when someone is obviously creepy and weird and minors know to avoid them. It happens when someone is welcoming and friendly, completely sfw, and easy for the minor to trust. Spouting this rhetoric about how minors need "safe" adults to talk to them is the most dangerous thing this community could be doing, and I'm sorry, I'm not going to be quiet about this one or hide it under a cut.
There are plenty of resources online, free books and articles written by actual doctors and psychologists that will reassure them they are not weird for enjoying tickling (in whatever context that might be), if they care to look. Those are the resources they should be exposed to, not some rando on Tumblr telling them it's okay. If they want to talk to someone who is actually in the community, clearly, there are plenty of other minors for them to talk to. They do not need to talk to adults in this community... period.
This is not a callout, I am not going to name names, this is not for drama or sensation. I am simply doing this so that you can make an informed decision about who you are following and decide whether you want to continue to interact with my work or not (and so that you will know whether or not I want you to interact with my work.)
I don't think adults and minors in this community should be interacting with each other. The only time I think this is okay is when a minor in this community turns 18. I don't think it's reasonable to expect them to stop talking to their friends who are slightly younger, but I do think any teasing that was happening should stop, and I think that once someone is 18, they should not make any new friends who are minors. Some people don't feel ready to be a legal adult -- I understand that, but nonetheless, that is what you are when you turn 18 and that comes with new responsibilities to protect minors and yourself. This isn't my opinion, it's reality.
I don't think there is any reason for an adult who is 21 or older to be talking to minors online, especially in private chats, period... whether they are in the tickling community or not. I think it is really weird for an adult over 21 to have a personal friendship with a minor who they have no attachment to (IE: they are a family or similar, a friend's kid, etc.) If someone I worked with told me that they have a personal friend who is a minor, I would consider that to be a red flag and would really question what reason they had to be talking to kids in a personal context.
Lest you be tempted to think I simply hate kids -- and I've said this before -- I love kids. I worked for a school district for over five years. I loved helping kids learn about their technology. I had some kids who were my assistants and they were bright and funny and great to work with. I did not interact with them outside of work, ever, and when they graduated or left I never spoke to them again. If I ran into them in public, I would briefly talk to them and then go on my merry way. I would not have a private discussion with them about anything; that would be wildly inappropriate, and I sincerely find it very hard to understand how any adult would see this differently. I know that the administration I worked for would agree with me, and if it was discovered that any of the staff I worked with were chatting privately with, meeting privately with, or otherwise maintaining a private friendship with a kid outside of work... that would be very seriously questioned and most likely lead to a termination.
If my feelings about this have made you enjoy my work less, resent me, or not want to interact with me anymore... You are probably not someone I wanted to interact with, anyway, I'll be honest. My feelings about this have been very clear from the outset, this blog has never been SFW, I've never used SFW tags and I never will. Even before I started making NSFW art, I still didn't use SFW tags because I know that minors heavily use and monitor those tags and I did not want them finding me that way.
My final point here is... if you have a SFW blog and you allow minors to interact with you, you'd better make damn sure that nobody you're reblogging from makes or reblogs NSFW content in addition to the SFW content you're reblogging from them, and that they are okay with minor interaction, because otherwise, you are leading minors back to blogs where they will be exposed to NSFW and/or violating the boundaries of the people you're reblogging from. Seems like a lot of work just to curate a space for minors.
That's kinda all I have to say. Block/unfollow me if you want to, really, I don't care about my follower count. I would rather you know my true feelings and hate me for it than assume I'm okay with something I'm not.
I am pro-safety for children/teens, as someone who has worked with them, and as someone who was personally groomed as a minor.
I don't feel angry when I see things like this (and, no, this not the first time this has happened to me or my friends). I feel sympathy, for you, because you are going to be (hopefully!) embarrassed by the way you behaved when you get older.
I really hope you learn to respect people's boundaries, especially in this community that relies so heavily on consent, before you hurt someone or yourself. I also hope you develop some concern for your own safety, because I hate to say it, but there are predators in this community that will hurt you if you give them the chance. Ask me how I know.
I had a pretty rough evening, in a mental illness kind of way. I’m alright, and I’m still going to keep going with tickletober, but I needed to take a break and draw something for comfort tonight. It’s not graphic or anything, but it’s a little sad, so I’ll put it under a cut.
