#nurodivergency

[esoteric-nightmare]

Its pretty awful that good grammar, spelling and word choice is so tied to intelligence

some people have:

Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, disorganized thought and etc

issues that people struggle with, but don't effect how "smart some one is". Its so humiliating and frustrating to have people point out your mistakes, and comment or make jokes about your writing and the way you talk.

(Disclaimer 1: I am talking about casual environments, posting online or chatting with friends. not work/school environments where some one might seek help for themselves)

(Disclaimer 2: perfectly acceptable to say "can you rephrase that" or "sorry I do not understand" I am specifically talking about Jokes and being an unnecessary grammar checker in casual conversations)

Also! Even if you are joking about someone who is pretty shitty, you are still insulting everyone in proximity who struggle with grammar, spelling, word choice and etc. You can fully just say someone is "shitty".

(Also want to note, as some one with learning disorders, no amount of pointing out my mistakes is going to make me better in the future, I have a disability, that disables me)

(have disorganized though/speech/writing, hope I am clear)

[spleentheween]

Hyper fixations can be fucking exhausting and mentally draining.

I feel like that isn’t discussed enough.

I’ve been really getting into gravity falls again because of the release of the book of bill, and have been obsessing over personality traits of characters, trying to justify if they’re good characters or not, only to be squashed once I see another persons opinion online or something they do in the show that’s kind of rude.

I’ve been thinking and worrying about it so much, it feels like my heart is beating faster, I feel uncomfortable, and I can’t enjoy the show at all without overthinking.

I feel miserable and I feel like those parts of having hyper fixations aren’t talked about as much.

[esoteric-nightmare]

video or article about a person with autism, schizophrenia, bi polar, etc

comments: "my sisters friends cousins student has "x", so I know everything there is to know"

it hurts me

(hope I make sense and my grammar is not too terrible)

[esoteric-nightmare]

I don't know if any one has talked about this, but want to speak on my observations

activities like hobbies and games and other stuff that should be done for fun or enjoyment... are kinda inaccessible due to how competitive art, hobbies and games can be

I realize not everything can be perfectly accessible to everyone, but thats not what im talking about. Im talking about how many activities that are supposed to be enjoyable, become a competition you didn't even sign up for

some times people do art for a type of therapy, or just because they enjoy it. many people will post art they just do for fun and get waves of criticism (honestly most of the criticism is not valid,but wont get to deep into that on this post).

and honestly I dont want to hear "people need to learn how to take criticism" or "they posted it online so they should expect it". especially if the person posted "please no comments or criticism". I am not always in the state to handle figuring out what is valid and what isnt valid criticism. people shouldn't be excluded from expressing themselves because others feel so self important they have to make unwanted comments about some one else's art

for my own story I take a long time to respond to some one, much longer if I have to read something, or some one surprised me with a social interaction. games that require quick reactions are pretty inaccessible to me.

my friends would make a jeopardy game every year. I was prepared every time that the only way I would answer a question is if the other person doesn't know it. thing is too I love trivia games, I just cant do well if I have to read and answer questions (or just quickly answer questions). I still had fun, and i am not even that competitive anyway. but it does make me think about people who get excluded from party games, because most people will pick a game they cant play.

summed up its not that competition is bad inherently, its when we ignore some people cant keep up. and make then feel bad about it. or decide you cant just play a different game, because one of the party guests cannot keep up.

competition is not more important then the activity being fun or enjoyable (also ive been in situations where a game made some people get into a mini fight)

(please bare with me, have disorganized thought/speech/text)

[esoteric-nightmare]

stuff that works for other people that doesn't work for me

(thought it may help for other people who feel bad X doesnt help them)

(no advice please)

-timers

setting a timer for a tasks, tends to just make me freeze and feel anxious

-rewards for tasks

doesnt matter if I reward myself after or give myself one before to "motivate me", it doesnt do anything for me

-breathing techniques and mindfulness practices

personally and its probably unhealthy, being to in my body or grounded freaks me out, and forcing it never helps

-turning off phones an hour before bed

personally i have too many thoughts in my head i need to distract from

essentially what works works and what doesnt, doesnt. you never need to force anything if it doesnt work. there is always other options or you straight up dont have a solution yet, and thats valid

(disorganized thoughts/speech/text hope I am clear)

[esoteric-nightmare]

a great struggle is: what is aesthetically pleasing to me, verses it actually being a sensory nightmare

- long hair

-stuff around my neck

-stuff thats too tight for my comfort (I prefer very loose things)

-sleeves

-weighted blankets

-headphones

-most hats

-etc

[esoteric-nightmare]

fuck love language

(unless you do benefit from it)

how about, how you would like people to respond (and how not to) when you vent

Stay silent

physical touch (hugs)

encouragement

advice

kind words

idk I feel like it would super help to be open about how you would like people to respond when you vent, personally I hate advice

(have disorganized thoughs/speech/text please bare with me <3)

[situationallyintelligent]

sometimes I just like. act like a caricature of a person. not quite in a masking way but I often go “what would a person do in this situation?” Like I think of myself as a person obviously but like brain is wondering how to not seem like a feral creature