How does one explain (in a kind, constructive criticism sort of way) to a straight, cis male that reacting in a non-negative way to a not-straight male asking him out is not an accomplishment he should be rewarded for?
Like, yeah, I'm really glad you're doing your best to not be a horrible, homophobic dude bro, but also, it should just be basic manners to not be a dick when rejecting someone that asks you out regardless of their gender/sexuality.
For real, any actual suggestions welcome b/c the guy I'm talking about is one of the nicest human beings I've ever known and I don't want to upset him or make him feel like he's said something offensive.
It's just sorta a weird, self-congratulatory thing to bring up, ya know? And he's done it twice, so it's bound to come up again.
