#on attraction

[the-most-sublime-fool]

Julio Cortazar, Hopscotch

[shadowfae]

I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that I am indeed attracted to alterhuman vibes. My last two biggest crushes were on a guy with fae vibes and e guy with demon vibes.

Ha, knew I wasn’t the only one! I ID’d as aroflux for literal years because I was only sometimes attracted romantically to my fiance and very specific people from my canons and I never figured out the pattern until my fiance was all “fuck it I’m nonhuman on main” and I was all 😍 at them and then I figured it out.

I kind of want to coin a term for it, but I’m not doing that unless I have an actually edited-and-planned-out-first essay to go with it, because I ain’t stupid. Not sure if we really need a term, though, I don’t expect to break up with my fiance so it’s not like I’ll need it for a dating app. :p

But welcome to the club! Eventually we’ll all figure it out!

[stargir1z]

The Intimate Blanchot by Joseph D. Kuzma

[firemoss]

"But that's what being in love is—" I say, "not acting on side of attraction."

— Emily Dalton, Be Straight With Me

[shadowfae]

Did you ever get a chance to look more into the Medusan term? 🐍

Curious to see what you think.

We use this term for ourselves because we are largely unattracted (aroace) to humans, or will become somewhat attracted to someone when they reveal that they are alterhuman/nonhuman.

Another term we love is Krakenian.

It keeps in mind that someone, because of being nonhuman/alterhuman, may not experience attraction in the way that humans do. So due to being nonhuman you have a hard time connecting to human forms of attraction.

Found: here.

I’ve been mulling over it for a couple of days! Krakenian seems a bit less useful - it seems to be just aroace with the ‘why’ attached? - but honestly, I need more than three days to mull over it and figure out how that fits into my identity and if it’s useful.

For some, I can absolutely see how it’d be useful. But I also knew people who were medusan by that definition long before I figured out my own attraction, so I’m not sure if it would be useful for me? Technically yeah, I count. But I’m also not really sure what having the term will do for me, honestly. It’s handy to have I suppose, except for the fact where I’d have to define it again every time someone reads it, so I may as well just use the definition in the first place.

Hmmmm.

[cielandfriends]

Basilio Facts #4

Always been assumed to prefer books and studying over girls but in truth? He’s never been sure he’s ever been attracted to them. Scared and uncomfortable to think about it though so he claims he’s just not interested.

[twintimez]

Why I hate attraction...

Reason 1.) The stupid jack-ass with the handsome face and (oddly) sexy, wtf? face. I've had the misfortune of running into this fellow college student of mine for the last two years and every time, I'm in the middle of being stupid / tripping over nothing / spilling something on myself. Now, I wouldn't care normally, save for when I look up (because it's always the same tingly feeling in the back of my head that someone is watching) and fully prepared to make a joke at my own misfortune find said handsome face staring with his usual wtf? face. Instead of my prepared comment, my ability to laugh at myself and most thing, or any other self defense mechanism I have acquired over the years of being clumsy, I turn bright red and scramble to get out of sight. Which, the last three times, has lead to me tripping over my own feet a few times.

Reason 2.) Smug, pain in the ass- Senpai. I don't really know how it happened. Only now I've come to notice the growing urge to gain this ass holes approval. So what if he's been at my job for three years? Been to Japan? Graduated with the B.A. I'm after? Is oddly able to keep up with my insane idiotic bable/wit and counter it with a chilly line that starts a fire of annoyance that lasts all day. I don't have to prove a god damn thing to him.

Only...

NOTICE ME SENPAI.

I can't get away with talking shit to him in Japanese. He's always the jerk that gets partnered with me at work because 1.) He's the only other guy to do the heavy lifting (most of my co-workers are expecting and can't lift over 20lbs you see) and he knows (better than me) how to work the various sections and stock quickly without wasting time like I do.

Yet the same scenario plays out every time.

"How's classes?"

"Eh."

"Failing Kanji still?"

"... it's hard."

"No. You just haven't studied enough."

"あのさ！”

”ええ？あほ。”

"Fuck you Tr--"

"Huh? That's senpai to you."

"ARGGHHH!!"

"Don't forget to hit the down button the bailer while you're back there."

Reason 3.)  Attractive customer in line

"Hi do you have a uhm.. a... the..."

"This?" *holds out extracare card(

"Yeah..." *sigh*

"Here ya go." *grin*

In short. I hate my brain and sense of attraction. I'd much rather live my days stumbling through life without feeling like a giant warm tomato every few days. Please and thanks mangaka who runs my life.