#overlyprotective

[paddlehi]

Between the lines #sendit #loyaltothefoil #starboard #builtforoutsiders #overlyprotective #livelifepositive #deepbluelife #fortheoceans #bioastin #superpowers #plantstrong #foilsurfer https://www.instagram.com/p/BpjYfQFgCzi/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=3wcd8pniooah

[fiftyshadesor]

@eloise.mumford "muddy running, or how to get through the rough patches" #overlyprotective #getoutthere !#nikewomen" #teamfifty #fiftyshadesdarker #fiftyshadesfreed #katherinekavanagh

[thepassionatefirstresponder]

Is the desire to change worth it if you end up losing what made you you?

I've come to realization that I am overly protective of people I care about and worry too much for them. I've had some people say to me not to worry, they are old enough and can take care of themselves. Fact that I know that some of the places that the people I care for are visiting are dangerous areas, especially at night. So I feel that my concerns are warranted to an extent but people don't think I should be bothered by it, that they are old enough and whatever happens, happens. You're not responsible for anyone mentality. So I'm at this point where I want to just cast off my concerns and worries and breathe a little easier. People say I should focus on myself and enjoy life. Don't be focused on what happens to others. They aren't your problem. Maybe in a way they're right but how do you change from what you've been doing forever and let go of the concerns for the safety of those you care for? How do you change and not become a totally different person than you've been to people? Would I like the person I will become if I just leave it all behind? Can I still be happy and be numb at the same time to the dangers that my loved ones will be facing out in the world? I'll be pondering this and hoping for feedback from my followers on what they would do in my shoes. If any of you had to deal with a similar situation and what you did to mitigate the situation I would really appreciate your responses.

[angryfreckle]

Let me tell you a story with an interesting twist...

So I was approached by an older man at the bar the other night and our conversation went like this: Man: "Hi, my name is ____"

Me: *pauses to assess situation* "Linda"

Man: *makes meaningless conversation*

Me: *politely replies while noticing that my male friends and the bartenders are now paying us very close attention* "Well, it was nice meeting you but I'm having a conversation with my friend"

Man: "oh okay." *wanders away and doesn't bother me the rest of the time I'm there*

That is how you handle rejection. He did nothing wrong by introducing himself and he left me alone when I made it clear I wanted him to.

However, my female friend had gotten the bartenders involved and they approached him after he left me and almost threw him out. My friend told me "Don't worry, I handled it."

No, she didn't handle it. I handled it. She actually made the situation worse. He almost got thrown out for introducing himself to a woman.

There is nothing wrong with approaching a woman and introducing yourself as long as you retreat when it’s made obvious they aren't interested. Treating me like I need protection is going to continue to teach men that women need protecting by other men because a woman’s own actions aren't meaningful enough to warrant proper behavior.

My claim on myself is enough.