@dialoguecoach with jHave you ever noticed yourself getting closer to achieving a goal and then giving up and falling back into old habits? Even after building up momentum and starting to see yourself develop new skills and achieve small successes along the way? Sometimes, the closer we get to becoming the person we want to be, the more that the fear of losing who we 'think' we are starts to mess with our heads. Why is this, it seems so illogical? Well, the paradox of change is that we first need to accept who we are. We need to recognize the positive intentions behind the habits we've formed. We develop coping mechanisms, negative self talk and self sabotaging behaviours to 'protect' ourselves. We need to accept that we are not broken. We are human. We make mistakes and change is hard. Think, what is one thing you can do to start reframing your identity? This will help to uncover the positive intentions that can be substituted with new behaviours to fulfill the same purpose? Then you will be ready for real #change #paradoxofchange #carlrogers #positivepsychology #startadialogue