Next Date Is On Me... #12
A standard rule in dating and in other areas of life is the person who does the inviting takes care of the date or event. Unless otherwise specified like let’s say a pot luck dinner, if I invite someone to my home, I will be making them dinner. I do not expect my guests to show up with their own food or have to pay for dinner. If I invite someone out on a date, I will cover the cheque.
Soooo..when a man asks me out to dinner or any date for that matter I would expect him to make sure HE picks up the cheque.
Now when that said man “forgets” his wallet and sheepishly tells me he will make it up to me on our second date, the answer right there, right then is NOT a chance buddy!! It’s like this is some weird tactic to somehow guarantee a second date. If I were a vindictive woman I would agree to second date and order top shelf scotch just so he could “make it up” to me and then ghost him🤣
This unfortunate situation has happened more than I would care to admit. But I am a woman of class and I graciously take care of the bill as I am not one to make a scene in the bar or restaurant or stiff the wait staff. I will however very plainly tell my date he is a low life and he doesn’t deserve to breathe the same air as I do! Date within your means asshole!!
FAV story: We meet at the bar and it’s evident he is WAY out of his league. Little did I know that he was living at home with his mom and he was temp out of work. This I found out AFTER said date. He had already begun drinking before I got there as when we walked in, he went straight to a table that had a pint of beer half empty and the server came up to him and asked if he will be settling up. I told the server we just arrived and there was an awkward exchange. I then realized this half empty glass belonged to my date. I ordered my scotch neat and he order another pint. That’s when he turned to me and said “I’m a little shy tonight”. I suspected immediately that he meant he did not have enough money to cover the bill, BUT I wanted to hear him say that. I responded with “oh don’t worry honey, no need to be shy with me”. He then said he had “forgotten” his wallet at home but that he would pay me back at the end of the night.
Make a long story short, ‘cause there are other parts to this story that are equally unbelievable, but we will stay on this track.
End of the night I have to drive this 42 year old man home where he gives me his sob story. I tell him he needs to grow his ass up and he needs to pay me back as he ordered 7 drinks that night!!!. This is where he begs me for a second chance and I tell him, the only second chance he is going to get is from his mama who loves him no matter what apparently.
Next day I get a text FROM HIS MOTHER apologizing to me for her son’s behaviour AND she offers to etransfer me the money. Have to say I was NOT expecting that at all. I was relieved to know that someone other than me was embarrassed for this man.
