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We spend too much time wishing for the future to come, that we don’t realise how we’ll never experience the present as it is ever again. Once the future arrives, there's no going back.

a thought I had at midnight

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Found my perfect bikini top! directly from my fashion blog's Instagram, @_dressica x

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beautiful flowers I saw today when walking on the street, had to take a photo! xx insta: @dressicablog

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The thin line between a compliment and an insult.

Warning: I’m about to go on a little rant.

This topic never seemed to bother me so much growing up but all of a sudden I feel like it’s been taken way too far. You may have heard this before, but being called ‘too skinny’ is the equivalent of being called ‘too fat’. Yes, they are completely opposite from eachother, but they both have the same effect on a person. Calling someone ‘fat’ is known as rude and insulting, and usually offensive. But when someone is called ‘too skinny’, some people tend to think that it’s okay and it’s a ‘compliment’. There is a difference between a real compliment and a fake compliment.

I’ve been skinny all my life - It’s just the way I am, the way I was born - my bone structure. No I don’t starve myself and no I don’t do much exercise at all (I really should be though…). But no matter where I go, I always get the same questions: “Why are you so skinny?” “Do you even eat?” “You need to eat more.”

I usually just put up with these questions because I’m so used to them. When I get asked why I’m skinny or how I’m skinny, I never know how to answer because it’s just the way I am. I eat normally and everyday, infact I eat a lot when I want to. But some people that ask me these questions think that it’s a compliment, because it’s ‘nice to be skinny’. Yes, I enjoy being skinny and I’m happy with the way I am. But why do they have to make me feel bad about it?

Today pretty much crossed the line for me and I thought it was time to get this out there. I was at school and in music class I had a performance where I had to wear casual clothes, so I wore similar clothing to the other girls in my band - high waisted flowy shorts and a turtleneck top. I’m not sure if it was because I wasn’t in my school uniform or not but one of the other students started talking to me, saying things like “Oh my gosh, you REALLY need to put some weight on. Like seriously I’m begging you, put some weight on!” I don’t think I’ve ever been so offended by my weight because I never really think about it. I am definitely not anorexic, that is completely different from just having a thin body. I’m really not even that skinny, yet people still have to make comments like that. Usually with skinny comments I give them a really small fake smile and walk away, because I know their intention is essentially good but they don’t realise that they actually hurt. This time I didn’t even acknowledge the comment and walked away.

I’ve always been happy with my body but comments like these make me wonder whether I should change myself. Of course, they only make me wonder, I’m not going to change because I’m comfortable.

Anyway, this post wasn’t supposed to be about me, it’s about everybody. Being skinny is nice but not when people make you feel bad about it. It is completely unnecessary to comment on anyone’s body, no matter what their weight or shape is, because even if you think your comments are encouraging for having a ‘good body’, you don’t realise that they may hurt. A fake compliment would be ‘Wow, you’re so skinny, how did you get like that? You need to eat more lovely!’ Sounds nice, but it really isn’t. A real compliment is saying ‘You have a really nice body’, or, don’t say anything at all, because sometimes silence can be the best compliment, especially if it doesn’t have anything to do with you.

No matter what your weight, size or shape is, you’re all beautiful. There’ll be people in life that bring you down for it but the only person that can decide whether your appearance is okay is yourself. If you’re happy with it then you’re happy with it. If you’re not, you’re not. I know a lot of girls can relate to this, so all you have to do is embrace your size. Make it something that is apart of who you are. Learn to embrace it. I have.

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Windsor Smith || Depth || peachae

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