okay so I'm not sure if I'm asexual because I think about if I date someone that I'll probably have to have sex with them and my brain acknowledges that but I kinda don't want that in a relationship. there was this guy that I liked a lot but all I wanted to do was like sit there and talk to him. sex seems scary and weird and uncomfortable and not something I'm interested in. am I asexual or just not "matured" enough because I'm only 16. I read the "am I asexual" page and I'm still unsure.
A romantic relationship does not equal sex. Sex is not romance. Sex is not love. Sex is not a necessary part of a relationship. If you don’t want to have sex in your romantic relationships, don’t. It’s okay. There are plenty of other people who don’t want sex and/or are fine without having sex in their relationships.
It’s okay to not want sex. It’s not that you’re too young and not “mature” enough. There are people younger than you who know they want sex and have it. As soon as you’re old enough to start thinking about sex and whether or not you want it is when you’re old enough to decide your opinions on it. Whether or not you’ve had sex. Your opinion may change as you get old, but that’s not because you were too young or not mature enough. That’s cause opinions change. People change.
Whether or not asexual is the right word for you is up to you to decide? Do you identify with asexual? Do you want to call yourself asexual? Do you feel asexual? If you answered yes to any of those then congratulations! You’re asexual! If not that’s okay too! Keep doing some hunting.
