So I'm confused about my gender. I'm ok with being called a girl and having a girl body, but sometimes is someone I don't know or am not close too uses she/her or I see something where it says I'm female, my heart sinks. But if my family uses she/her and say I'm female, I feel fine. So I'm not sure what that means :-/
well, let me tell you, this is not an uncommon thing! i have experienced this somewhat
when someone misconstrued me for male or male-aligned i felt pleased, but when they thought i was female or female-aligned i felt a stone in my stomach. when close friends/family see me as male-aligned i feel the need to correct them.
its more about how that person understands your gender/gender identity and are they more likely to respect it/understand it or not know at all/reject it.
if you are concerned you are not female/not entirely female, please look these over, see if they match how you feel;
Expecgender – A gender which changes depending on who you are around. Also known as pivotgender.
Mirrorgender – A gender that changes to fit the people you’re around.
Mutogender – A gender which is fluid and changes depending on one’s situation.
Pivotgender– Someone whose gender changes depending on who they are around. Note: Not to be confused with mutogender, which goes for people and situations.
Perospike – Being usually content with your gender, but occasionally strongly wanting to be another one.
Xirl – Someone who identifies in some way as a nonbinary girl or nonbinary girl-adjacent. Someone who identifies with some part of woman/girlhood but who wants a more nonbinary and neutral sounding word because they aren’t entirely girls or don’t want to be associated with the typical ideas brought up by the word “girl.”
if none of them fit, feel free to send an ask to this blog and seek help - or you could ask for help/advice in creating your own gender!
http://what-the-heck-gender-am-i.tumblr.com/
i hope this helps!! ♡
