Moving soon
So itās likely that, over the weekend, weāll be moving back in with my parents, until we can get somewhere in Ireland, hopefully before the year ends. Our contract runs out soon, but Iāll say to some of our friends that if thereās something going on here, to let us know, because we may be able to pop into the city and join in. Weāll need to know in advance though, to make proper arrangements.
Over the summer, weāll have our graduation, and my sister will be there. I probably will have to explain that weāve had a split (That split being Tsume), and think about if I should tell my parents or not. They donāt know about the DID, Iām scared of how theyāll react, I did originally plan to tell them after moving, to avoid any negative confrontation, but now Iām not certain. This is something we need to discuss. My main reason is because, after graduation, weāre planning on going to an after-event, and some of our friends and maybe lecturers will be there, and it may be the last time seeing them before we move out. If we can visit in, we will, but that isnāt guaranteed. I imagine the others may want to front during this time, and I want to give them that freedom, but itās more difficult if there are people there in your family that donāt know. I have no idea how to handle this. Plus it wonāt be until the move at least that we can start getting a diagnosis (and for new followers who donāt know, we knew it was DID after a visit to our tutor over something else. She explained to us about DID and multiplicity after she figured out we were a system. Luckily, she explained, that sheās had students with DID before and knew the signs and how to handle it).
Also, when we know more about where and when weāll be living, we have some things to sort out. First, we have to sort things out, and see if someone is willing to move with us. I doubt we can live alone, especially since Iām a semi-functioning host (as I need someone to help me with many basic tasks, and am still reliant on others), and even we donāt have full control of switching (does any system?), and we donāt switch that much, itās not a case of ājust get another alter to do itā unfortunately. Trouble is, I donāt really have the courage to ask friends if they want to move with us, and it is a bit to ask of someone. I just hope things fall into place with this. Also, found out from picking up a leaflet, that weāll likely have to fill in another Student Finance form before we move, to calculate if we need to start paying off (a specific one for people planning to emigrate). The one I picked up was for SFE (Student Finance England) but after searching, it appears to also apply to SFW (Student Finance Wales). Just can fill that in when we have all the information that we need.
Anyway, enough rambling. Just wanted to give a quick update. We can agree that I failed on the āquickā part. But need to start packing tomorrow, so we can get it all over the weekend, and the fact that weāll need to move the degus too. Hope allās well with everyone.
Oliver-Joseph
